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Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Well I didn't mean to come off that way but I saw no reason to continue the date if I didn't see it going anywhere.
Its called being gracious and not being rude. You engage in conversation, be pleasant and polite, and then at the end you move on. Social interactions aren't about "if I determine I can get nothing I want from you, I don't give a crud about you and don't give a crud about what you think, so I'm going to be rude'... only bad (and I'm toning down by language there) act like that. Don't be that person.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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What is the issue if he respectfully cut the outing short and didn't want to give this woman any false hope of it going anywhere?
Oh please. Talking to someone throughout a single lunch is not giving someone hope. And if one meets for a meal one finishes the meal and then concludes. One doesn't "cut the outing short" since there is no way to do so respectfully or graciously. A little class goes a long way. Maybe it is just me (I know it isn't), but I prefer not to be seen as an a**hole even to individuals I'll never see again.
I think there will probably be a couple of opportunities for me to see her in person over summer during festival season (we have the same group of friends.) I think I'm going to continue getting to know her and will probably roll the dice later on.
This is the best course of action, interacting more in person so you can see if there is a connection worth pursuing. She fits your type but remember that you are one half of the equation. Hope for the best but don't get too invested in her before you have a chance to see her again and see if there is something between you.
What is the issue if he respectfully cut the outing short and didn't want to give this woman any false hope of it going anywhere?
Stringing her along thinking it is going somewhere that's rude and classless. I was upfront and direct with her. But damned if I do, damned if I don't.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Stringing her along thinking it is going somewhere that's rude and classless. I was upfront and direct with her. But damned if I do, damned if I don't.
No one has ever said "he/she actually finished their meal/drink, but he/she wasn't interested, they were stringing me along". Ever. EVER.
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