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Live a truthful life. Betraying your wife is not truthful living. You seem proud of cheating. I find that distasteful.
It sounds more like he was painfully lonely and wanting of human touch and affection. He was ignored and his wife was giving nothing to him. He stood by her and tried to help her asking for little.
It's like a plant finally getting sunlight. Yes cheating is not good but the experience showed him he was living in misery and now he is leaving.
It's annoying when people fixate on the "crime" instead of realizing cheating is often a symptom of something wrong or missing.
It sounds more like he was painfully lonely and wanting of human touch and affection. He was ignored and his wife was giving nothing to him. He stood by her and tried to help her asking for little.
It's like a plant finally getting sunlight. Yes cheating is not good but the experience showed him he was living in misery and now he is leaving.
It's annoying when people fixate on the "crime" instead of realizing cheating is often a symptom of something wrong or missing.
Thank you so much. You hit the proverbial nail on the head. The encounter was not about just getting some sex. What I desperately missed was passion, touching, kissing..the afterglow afterward. That part of it meant so much to me I sent the "stranger" flowers just to say thank you. We never exchanged numbers or last names that night. I made an effort to find her and send anonymous roses to her work, with a note that only she could decipher. Why? Because it mattered to me that she knew it mattered to me. Having someone who valued and appreciated heartfelt feelings was way more important than the "crime" committed.
of course he should have just left without going the cheater way. But he couldn't.
Some people need a kick in the butt to do what is necessary and some people need to go "to the other side" aka cheat to realize that their marriage can't go on the way it does.
What is better, cheat and divorce or hang in forever and both be miserable?
of course he should have just left without going the cheater way. But he couldn't.
Some people need a kick in the butt to do what is necessary and some people need to go "to the other side" aka cheat to realize that their marriage can't go on the way it does.
What is better, cheat and divorce or hang in forever and both be miserable?
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There is no excuse to cheat. None.
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Get out, the sooner the better. If she finds out she has lung cancer and THEN you leave, you will end up being vilified.
I think you knew you would get this reaction regarding the cheating. But, nobody has walked a mile in your shoes. That first reintroduction to passion is like diving into a pool after walking through 100 miles of desert.
By the way, never send flowers to a married woman at work. Awkward.
However, if I am married and never sleep with my husband and refuse anything that has to do with sex, I wouldn't be surprised if he looks elsewhere.
My personal opinion is that even when sex hurts me or I don't have the desire anymore, but my husband does, I should take one for the team and at least do something to him to satisfy him or allow him to find a lover on the side. I find it cruel to expect from your partner to just forget he has a penis just because my vag has retired.
Anyway, sex isn't the only issue with OP and his wife, so ... yes ... he should end it asap.
So you HID your resentment to her so she doesn't know and then went and had an affair.
I would just divorce and get on with your lives.
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