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Yeah I am thinking I just meant to be single. My expectations are insanely high and I do not expect to find mr perfect and since settling has not worked out, there is no point to trying that again.
Winning the Lottery and hiring help sounds like a solution also for what it's worth and that is not happening either.
Ya think, Lol.
You're better off single until you fix your issues. Also, learn to compromise.
And get rid of your crazy ex's, because no good man is going to tolerate them.
I still try to maintain an active life away from my kids. It seems common amongst those of us that are single with kids. I do not see my friends that are married doing so as much. They socialize more with kids in tow.
I do think it's important for you to have your own sense of identity outside of being a mother. But, it really just sounds like you have a sense of entitlement that comes at the expense of everyone around you. Perhaps that is the norm in your circle, but that doesn't make it right; taking off on a whim and doing whatever you want is not responsible behavior for someone with children and a significant other.
Well my exhusband came out of high school making over $100k a year. Plus we owned a landscape business. I worked full time, did books and scheduling for business, and took care of everything at the house. Plus took care of my daughter.
I have never been a high wage earner. Still not at $35k a year. I disagree that the household chores should be split based on income. I had no problems doing everything when I did not work, but add working to the mix and time becomes a commodity.
Came out of high school making six figures? Was the guy some kinda Kal-ee-for-neeya drug kingpin or what?
She was complaining about the other guy not wanting to spend time with her.
If the OP doesn't change her attitude (she won't) she will have a difficult time finding happiness.
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Do you know what actually takes more strenght? The base when a person is not fully recovered yet still fights to live. That is the actual base when you need your strenght. After it is dealed no need for it anymore. The struggling point measures the strenght. The longer fight, the more strenght is needed. Some people will never give up but fight till their grave. There could be new and new assaults/accidents/misfortune yet they go on. That is actual strength in action.
Sometimes guys would not listen when things are worded nicely. Nobody have to be a doormat, if a guy is a-h and wont stop then no need to be nice to him either. Of course without reason nobody have to be a-h/b-h but that is again, subjective.
To be honest making your above statement: "Only fully recovered women are strong" is not very compassionate and makes you look like both, in your own terms, a-hole and ugly inside. It is also subjective is that putting you down or analysing your text in context that you actually gave by yourself and bringing the other view on it and trying to help you to succes in your future relationships.
Many of your posts are about a woman should not have problems to bring on your sight because those are not your problems. Good luck for finding people into your life who have no problems during their life. Also traumas etc. are part of peoples life and it is immature to try to demand that part of their life should not be shown to you. You need fully accept that person, also the past. Traumatic, horrible past, are you strong enough for that? Things are more than understand it in theory, you know body reactions, you know something in some person can actually come from former generation Science Is Proving Some Memories Are Passed Down From Our Ancestors - Reset.me ..
You could learn to view things from female pov (in each individuals pov who ever you are dealing with) and you could learn to be compassionate towards women. What comes to your posts generally, you are not. It is a skill to be compassionate and you need to learn to open your senses and feel that. In a relationship you both need to be compassionate toward each others.
There is also studies which shows that men are less compassionate towards women and more compassionate towards their own self. It does not promise any good for relationship succees.
You can of course define things as you like but meanwhile you are looking down on her who is fighting, she is actually stronger than you.
I just cannot win. I said something nice about women and you're still looking to argue with me. What did I say that was so wrong?! Explain! Actually don't, I'll just block you.
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I do think it's important for you to have your own sense of identity outside of being a mother. But, it really just sounds like you have a sense of entitlement that comes at the expense of everyone around you. Perhaps that is the norm in your circle, but that doesn't make it right; taking off on a whim and doing whatever you want is not responsible behavior for someone with children and a significant other.
I often take my children. I might be craving some time away from the significant other. But I am not joking when I say he waits for me outside the bathroom door. I can't even pee in peace.
My single girl friends go out more than I do and I go out often. I took my whole family out last night, including my parents, so it is not like I do not believe in spending significant time with family. I do.
Came out of high school making six figures? Was the guy some kinda Kal-ee-for-neeya drug kingpin or what?
It's hard to believe this is all real.....
He was/ is a mechanic. He came out of school Making good money. But in our area, trucker drivers can make $100k a year if they want to, if that puts things into perspective.
She was complaining about the other guy not wanting to spend time with her.
If the OP doesn't change her attitude (she won't) she will have a difficult time finding happiness.
Basically she's still the same as before. She's gone from 1 extreme to the next.
She's gone from men who are users, and give her tons of freedom due to not giving a damn about her. To the current guy who's overly clingy, jealous, and co-dependent that won't leave her alone.
Basically the shoe is on the other foot. The guy is just messed up in the opposite direction. It sounds like he suffers from low self-esteem and turning to relationships for possible fulfillment. And sadly, he got involved with the wrong woman who has more going on that he bargained for.
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I am happy with myself. It is a struggle finding someone that can be happy with me.
I'm sure. But again. If you are unwilling to compromise, admit you have some flaws to be worked on, and wanna always be in control, then no. Chances are, the only men who will be happy are the dysfunctional ones.
So you may as well go back to the previous ex prior to this guy. Or the Couch-Sleeper. They both put up with you well enough. And they apparently didn't smother you Gym-Jock.
Basically she's still the same as before. She's gone from 1 extreme to the next.
She's gone from men who are users, and give her tons of freedom due to not giving a damn about her. To the current guy who's overly clingy, jealous, and co-dependent that won't leave her alone.
Basically the shoe is on the other foot. The guy is just messed up in the opposite direction. It sounds like he suffers from low self-esteem and turning to relationships for possible fulfillment. And sadly, he got involved with the wrong woman who has more going on that he bargained for.
This is spot on. I need the man in the middle. I can't be someone's everything. Well not to someone I did not give birth to.
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Actually don't, I'll just block you.
