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I'm in a complicated dilemma.. I have been at my new job since April and well.. I have a strict rule of "don't **** where you eat"..... unfortunately, that rule is slowly becoming an issue for me. I work with this girl (let's name her Steph) and well she's made it seem like she's not my biggest fan every other day of the week and doesn't interact much with me. When we do talk it's very short and to the point conversations and nothing more. However, recently, I've noticed that during our morning meetings she's usually always near me or next to me which is even more confusing.
Now here's where my assumption of her not being my biggest fan comes from.. I work in sales (and so does she) and well I've been doing well at my job but I've assumed that she's taken to some nasty comments/actions towards my results (e.g., he has nothing to show for it, or, seemed upset by it) which were not part of my intentions towards anyone else in my company. Now here's where it gets weird..
She seems capable of having a normal conversation with everyone else except me.. and it was recently the end of the Q for our company so we had a little party in the meantime. Here we interacted and socialized and surprisingly enough so did me and her! We talked for a bit (although we had a few drinks in us) and she kept pushing me to drink from a tequila shot that she had just tried.. What I'm confused with is that the whole night we we're interacting and she always showed up wherever I was located. So my question is.. does this seem like an opportunity I want to pursue or was it influence by alcohol?
I'm in a complicated dilemma.. I have been at my new job since April and well.. I have a strict rule of "don't **** where you eat"..... unfortunately, that rule is slowly becoming an issue for me. I work with this girl (let's name her Steph) and well she's made it seem like she's not my biggest fan every other day of the week and doesn't interact much with me. When we do talk it's very short and to the point conversations and nothing more. However, recently, I've noticed that during our morning meetings she's usually always near me or next to me which is even more confusing.
Now here's where my assumption of her not being my biggest fan comes from.. I work in sales (and so does she) and well I've been doing well at my job but I've assumed that she's taken to some nasty comments/actions towards my results (e.g., he has nothing to show for it, or, seemed upset by it) which were not part of my intentions towards anyone else in my company. Now here's where it gets weird..
She seems capable of having a normal conversation with everyone else except me.. and it was recently the end of the Q for our company so we had a little party in the meantime. Here we interacted and socialized and surprisingly enough so did me and her! We talked for a bit (although we had a few drinks in us) and she kept pushing me to drink from a tequila shot that she had just tried.. What I'm confused with is that the whole night we we're interacting and she always showed up wherever I was located. So my question is.. does this seem like an opportunity I want to pursue or was it influence by alcohol?
Right she treats/talks to you like crap, you don't really get on and you work together.......
Do you actually want answer to that mate? LOL
I'm not at all against work based flings and even relationships ( although some will be along later saying the opposite ) but you don't seem to like each other ain't that enough to tell you to AVOID!
I find her to be quite attractive and people don't seem to feel the same way lol.. I just think I'm a simple guy trying to make it in this tough world but she's just there. Women are just too complicated for me to even understand at times.
1. she is playing mind games
2. she is very smart and knows how to pretend. If she plays easy from day 1 you won't like her
3. she can be just bored and doesn't have feelings for you
Unfortunately I tend to be similar to this woman. If I really like someone I will be rude to him, avoid eye contact, avoid talking or smiling to him,....etc to hide my feelings, I mean what if he finds out?! I'm not a good liar. I don't like that and feel bad about it especially if the person I like is nice, kind and decent.
So you're recommendations would be to not even pursue? I'm one of those guys who's horrible at catching on things and I don't know whether I should even put in time and effort on her.
I'm in a complicated dilemma.. I have been at my new job since April and well.. I have a strict rule of "don't **** where you eat"..... unfortunately, that rule is slowly becoming an issue for me. I work with this girl (let's name her Steph) and well she's made it seem like she's not my biggest fan every other day of the week and doesn't interact much with me. When we do talk it's very short and to the point conversations and nothing more. However, recently, I've noticed that during our morning meetings she's usually always near me or next to me which is even more confusing.
Now here's where my assumption of her not being my biggest fan comes from.. I work in sales (and so does she) and well I've been doing well at my job but I've assumed that she's taken to some nasty comments/actions towards my results (e.g., he has nothing to show for it, or, seemed upset by it) which were not part of my intentions towards anyone else in my company. Now here's where it gets weird..
She seems capable of having a normal conversation with everyone else except me.. and it was recently the end of the Q for our company so we had a little party in the meantime. Here we interacted and socialized and surprisingly enough so did me and her! We talked for a bit (although we had a few drinks in us) and she kept pushing me to drink from a tequila shot that she had just tried.. What I'm confused with is that the whole night we we're interacting and she always showed up wherever I was located. So my question is.. does this seem like an opportunity I want to pursue or was it influence by alcohol?
Don't.
Or, failing that, proceed with absolute caution. As in let this drag out for months.
I figured as much and to hold my grounds.. I've just been massively confused by her mixed signals. But I'll hold my ground and not fall for whatever she's trying to pull.
If she is doing all this extra crap now, she would probably be a lot worse after a break up. Don't do that to yourself.
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) but you don't seem to like each other ain't that enough to tell you to AVOID!
