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I’ve been dating a wonderful man for five months. He is going thru a divorce which is getting increasingly nasty, his ex texts abuse and blocks his every effort at coming to an amicable settlement. He had only just filed when we met. He just ended it saying he could fall in love with me so easily but can’t let himself and needs time to heal. He messaged next day saying he has set up counselling and will sort everything out, that he enjoyed every minute with me and is sorry he’s not himself and that he’s sad. I told him to take the time he needs and have been responding to his messages but am not sure how best to manage this.
It's so frustrating tho why isn't he as into me as I'd like where do I go wrong :-(. He said he was falling in love a couple of months ago and wanted to see me all the time and he said he loved every minute with me....
It's so frustrating tho why isn't he as into me as I'd like where do I go wrong :-(. He said he was falling in love a couple of months ago and wanted to see me all the time and he said he loved every minute with me....
Well sometimes people rebound after just ending a relationship, especially if it's a marriage. He probably was rebounding, which caused him to move fast with you and make declarations of love so soon. After all, he isn't even divorced and hasn't gone without speaking to his wife yet.
Now, he's slowed down some and knows he needs to focus on himself and get to an emotionally healthy place before entering into another relationship that he may not even want.
Sometimes, it is not good to start relationships with people who are still involved with someone. True the man is separated. But as the saying goes separated =/= single. So he is still very much in a relationship that has not been completely cut off yet, therefore it still effects him. And because it still has effect on him, it caused him to move super fast with you, possibly as a way of distracting himself from his falling marriage and the drama that comes with it. Basically everything looked super great compared the the hell he's still trying to exit. But he knows he moved too fast.
Where did you go wrong? Dating a still married man who has not had time to heal from a bad relationship.
Never, never, ever date someone who is not at least a year past their divorce.
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