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I have mixed feelings about this topic. On one hand I suspect that some of the people who are struggling with dating feel they need to come up with the perfect line to ask out a girl and I genuinely know that isn't the case and if you are spending too much time over thinking things, that is going to hurt you with dating.
That said there have been some times where I came up with something really witty on the fly and I was having so much fun with the interaction and saying my clever line and the woman could tell and feel how much fun I was having in this interaction, that the interaction and the first date that followed were both great.
So I would say if you do feel that you came up with something perfect in the moment don't be afraid to say it. But if you can't, don't let that be the reason you don't ask this woman out either.
Just ask her out directly. Being shy and vague has huge drawbacks for guys.
I got a feeling you're not used to rejection and may be in your teens or early 20s.
Practice to overcome that. Take a face to face sales job.
Watch the movie Boiler room. Great lessons on how to sell yourself or something.
Better to ask directly, but have it be something you enjoy doing, haven't done before/recently, and were going to do / would do anyway. If you are comfortable and in your element the date is going to go better. But if the date still sucks, you still crossed the place/event off your list and it wasn't a total loss. Have her interests/tastes somewhat in mind but don't tailor it to her; she can do that later when it's her turn to come up with a date idea.
For me at least this eliminates all the crappier [first] date ideas: restaurant, movies, etc. They can still go fine if the compatibility is right, but they're not ideal.
If you're too indirect you may come off like a wuss, and struggle to find an opening to make a move in a natural way. You don't have to call it a date but it's you and her for no purposes other than being/doing something together.
Because I think it seems boring to straightforwardly ask a girl out, do you guys agree or disagree?
I have my own take on this. First you must affect a hayseed accent. Then approach the female girl, put your head down and look down and start scuffing your feet in the dirt, and glance up at Miss Daisy briefly from time to time, then say, "Aww, shucks, Miss Daisy. I don't rightly know how to say this, but would you maybe feel laahk a-goin' with me to the (for example) big dance at the Long Branch Saloon this a-here comin' Satt'day? Maybe?" Scuff your feet some more, say "Aww, shucks" a couple more times, and wait for her YES YES YES! answer.
1. she says no
2. she says yes and on the date another guy hits on her and she's with him.
3. you get even colder feet and you start wearing wool socks if you know you'll see an attractive woman that day.
#2 happened to me once at a bar where an Aussie swept her away from me.
Because I think it seems boring to straightforwardly ask a girl out, do you guys agree or disagree?
Well that all really depends. If you're up blunt straightforward guy don't try tactful and clever it's going to seem awkward even send the wrong message.
If you're a tactful clever type of guy use that approach being blunt and straightforward is going to seem extremely awkward and it's definitely going to send the wrong message.
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