Ghosting vs. Thanks but No Thanks (girls, call, friends, clubs)
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Originally Posted by Chowhound
LOL... really? I guess I'm parsing words a bit much here, but disgusting is what our current political race is, some dude not returning your calls???? Disgusting??? LOL...
It is disgusting, to me doing anything for your benefit at the expense of another is pretty sad character trait. So the men and women that date someone for a few weeks or a month or two snd do the slow fade ..that is cowardly. You may have not been engaged or significantly involved but an emotional attachment would of begun to be developed. It's just plain rude and inconsiderate and often it is done because usually the person doesnt want to feel responsibility or guilt for telling the other they arent interested.
Now if someone flakes after date one...meh whatever, an explanation would be dramatic UNLESS the other person involved is like "so when can i see you again?"
Location: Somewhere in a Field of Hopes and Dreams
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Originally Posted by Londoncowboy30
That's exactly what I mean my love .... You've made it BLATANTLY obvious that you wasn't interested yet they still thought they would go fishing......
What I was saying was that most men and myself included wouldn't even bother once we knew you wasn't interested and leave you alone.. I might be cheeky and be playful about it but wouldn't keep popping up trying it on.. LOL!
Men that do this are either not all there in the head ( a bit duh, no idea or you'll like this ... Can't take a hint ) or don't have many options ( desperate possibly ) for them to keep on coming.....
Location: Somewhere in a Field of Hopes and Dreams
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Originally Posted by hawaiiancoconut
Ghosting is disgusting and cowardly? Yet you do it, Lol.
If you want to be sassy, at least read. I am not going to tell a man I am not interested if he is going to flip his **** and become verbally insulting. I mean that is a no brainer. But 9 times out of 10, I am telling someone straight.
If people expect dating to be nice and polite, they're in for a rude awakening.
I lost count on how many times Ive been rudely ghosted by women I thought were genuinely nice and sweet .
Its no big deal. Ive learned throughout my years of dating that a lot of people lack a backbone. Such is life. Deal with it. Don't take it so personal, folks.
I just get upset when I see people on Facebook posting pics of their hiking trip after they ghosted me. I mean, glad you're having so much fun and all, but...actually, no I'm not glad you're having fun!
It is disgusting, to me doing anything for your benefit at the expense of another is pretty sad character trait. So the men and women that date someone for a few weeks or a month or two snd do the slow fade ..that is cowardly. You may have not been engaged or significantly involved but an emotional attachment would of begun to be developed. It's just plain rude and inconsiderate and often it is done because usually the person doesnt want to feel responsibility or guilt for telling the other they arent interested.
Now if someone flakes after date one...meh whatever, an explanation would be dramatic UNLESS the other person involved is like "so when can i see you again?"
See... my mind set in this thread has been from the prospective of just barely knowing someone. If you've been intimate and have been around that person any significant amount of time I really agree.
I guess that's where my disconnect was coming from. Very light casual acquaintance is one thing, but dating and seeing someone for a decent amount of time does deserves some respect and a proper explanation. I can get behind that.
if I barely know some chick and she stops texting me or returning my calls... I couldn't give a rip less, for the most part.
I am the same way too, I rather a guy tell me directly than disappear because a. They usually do it after a few months or weeks of dating so it is so random and feekings have already developed. Verbal directness creates instant closure instead of questions like why? What happened? Are they just busy? Or not into me anymore?
Do unto others......
Your statement seems a bit hypocritical.... And I sure hope this term ghosting doesn't catch on....sounds lame.
LOL... really? I guess I'm parsing words a bit much here, but disgusting is what our current political race is, some dude not returning your calls???? Disgusting??? LOL...
Seriously. I was cracking up at that. "Disgusting"? That's pretty overboard. Lots of behaviors that could be described as disgusting. Standing someone up? LOL! Hardly.
See... my mind set in this thread has been from the prospective of just barely knowing someone. If you've been intimate and have been around that person any significant amount of time I really agree.
I guess that's where my disconnect was coming from. Very light casual acquaintance is one thing, but dating and seeing someone for a decent amount of time does deserves some respect and a proper explanation. I can get behind that.
if I barely know some chick and she stops texting me or returning my calls... I couldn't give a rip less, for the most part.
Exactly!
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but wouldn't keep popping up trying it on.. LOL!
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