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The thing is people lie about sex and besides, it really isn't anybody's business. Nobody owes you an explanation just so you can throw it back into that person's face.
Ones medical conditions and criminal history aren't anyones business either, right? SO you would have no problem dating someone with an extensive criminal history or STDs or other diseases, right?
If the guy is so interested about knowing the number and still sticks around if he doesn't get it, that's completely on him.
That's a moot point. Of course it's totally up to him if he wants to stay without knowing something that he really wanted to know. If you'll have him, that is. So the real question is, would you want him to stick around even though you know that he really wants to know?
It's one thing to reject Man A who states that he does not want to date a woman with a high number, it's quite another to let Man B stay with you even though you know (by virtue of the fact that he really wants to know), that he too would not want to date a woman with a high number.
So you see it sounds like what you want is simply to not be asked. What you want is for a man to stay with you even if you have a high number, if you happen to like that man. You would rather have a man that you like stay with you, knowing that he would leave you if he knew your number, than to tell him your number so that you can both go your separate ways. Being honest would not work in your favor. Him knowing the truth would work against you. Being yourself would be a liability.
To you, it's more important to have that man that you like, and pray that he drops the subject, than for him to know and face the huge risk that he'll leave you. Tell me, if your husband didn't know your number, and then one day he found out and it was high, how sure are you that he'd be happy to stick around? Because you don't sound too sure. Otherwise this would not be such a touchy subject for you.
Ones medical conditions and criminal history aren't anyones business either, right? SO you would have no problem dating someone with an extensive criminal history or STDs or other diseases, right?
That's a moot point. Of course it's totally up to him if he wants to stay without knowing something that he really wanted to know. If you'll have him, that is. So the real question is, would you want him to stick around even though you know that he really wants to know?
It's one thing to reject Man A who states that he does not want to date a woman with a high number, it's quite another to let Man B stay with you even though you know (by virtue of the fact that he really wants to know), that he too would not want to date a woman with a high number.
So you see it sounds like what you want is simply to not be asked. What you want is for a man to stay with you even if you have a high number, if you happen to like that man. You would rather have a man that you like stay with you, knowing that he would leave you if he knew your number, than to tell him your number so that you can both go your separate ways. Being honest would not work in your favor. Him knowing the truth would work against you. Being yourself would be a liability.
To you, it's more important to have that man that you like, and pray that he drops the subject, than for him to know and face the huge risk that he'll leave you. Tell me, if your husband didn't know your number, and then one day he found out and it was high, how sure are you that he'd be happy to stick around? Because you don't sound too sure. Otherwise this would not be such a touchy subject for you.
Some things people will never find out because it is none of their business and has nothing to do with the person now.
Of course, that is beside the point. Any sane woman is going to dump a guy who places such importance on her previous numbers of partners because he is not smart enough to figure out there are much better ways to judge her character.
That's a moot point. Of course it's totally up to him if he wants to stay without knowing something that he really wanted to know. If you'll have him, that is. So the real question is, would you want him to stick around even though you know that he really wants to know?
No, I believe I've already stated that I would not.
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Originally Posted by Treehugger McSantander
It's one thing to reject Man A who states that he does not want to date a woman with a high number, it's quite another to let Man B stay with you even though you know (by virtue of the fact that he really wants to know), that he too would not want to date a woman with a high number.
Either way, he's not the right guy for me.
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Originally Posted by Treehugger McSantander
So you see it sounds like what you want is simply to not be asked. What you want is for a man to stay with you even if you have a high number, if you happen to like that man. You would rather have a man that you like stay with you, knowing that he would leave you if he knew your number, than to tell him your number so that you can both go your separate ways. Being honest would not work in your favor. Him knowing the truth would work against you.
No, I would want to be with a man who sees the "number" thing the same way as I do. In other words, I would not want to be with someone who put any sort of stock in a "number".
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Originally Posted by Treehugger McSantander
To you, it's more important to have that man that you like, and pray that he drops the subject, than for him to know and face the huge risk that he'll leave you. Tell me, if your husband didn't know your number, and then one day he found out and it was high, how sure are you that he'd be happy to stick around? Because you don't sound too sure. Otherwise this would not be such a touchy subject for you.
LOL, I'm absolutely sure that he'd stick around. You see, we have actually had meaningful discussions about sex and intimacy. Probably far more in depth than most people.
I'm fairly confident that I would not be sexually compatible with someone who felt that knowing a number was important.
For those who would be concerned about a woman's number, I have to ask what is your issue with it? Are you afraid that a high number means she will cheat? If so, that's the thing you should be concerned with, not her overall number.
A woman who has been with less than 10 guys but cheated on two of them is going to be much more of a risk of cheating in a relationship than is a woman who has been with 40 guys, but has never cheated on any of them.
Logically, you should have no problem telling a man how many other men you've gone to bed with, in order to know if you're compatible enough to spend decades with each other. But logic doesn't seem to be playing much of a role in your part of the discussion. Shame and insecurity, on the other hand, do.
What does harm have to do with anything? Multiple studies have shown that the more sexual partners a woman has before marriage, the more likely that marriage will end in divorse. Therefore, that number is harmful. Just because a person has a past with criminal behavior doesn't mean that they will commit future crimes.
Let me ask you this, are you interested in knowing how many people have owned a used car you are interested in buying?
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