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Hello guys,
i've been going through some really hard time lately and I needed to share my story with hope that I'll find out why is this happening to me. I'm 28 y old and never been in a relationship with a guy for more than a year. When I was younger I didn't really know what I want and I've been just having fun, but last couple of years I really started feeling the need to be with someone and have someone in my life to share experiences with and do things together. I'm always approached by men, and I don't wanna sound cocky but I do look good and take care of myself. Unfortunately it's really rare for me to like someone and to click with him. I don't really meet new guys very often so I decided to set up a profile in a dating site. And I've been going on some dates, with no success, noone that I really liked, but 2 weeks ago I met this guy... He was texting every day for like a week and called me couple of times. It was Tuesday and he asked me out to plan on Friday night. He really seemed super interested in me.On our date he was saying that he wants to see me again on Sunday. Our date went great, we had a great time. I'm usually really careful with first dates, but this time I was so attracted that we made out . He asked me to text him when I get home,and I did. He messaged me back. Next day, he didn't text me, and I texted him first. Hestarted a conversation and ask if he can see me the next day. we were talking to play basketball. I said yes, but then when the day came he flaked out on me... said he was too tired and he can come to see me but not for basketball. I started wondering what's happening and if he just wanna sleep with me. Long story short, he texted me same day to say sorry, because he drank too much last night and he slept till 2. I said ok, and maybe we'll hang out another time. Next day he text me for good morning, and that he misses me... I was so confused.. he usually initiated the converstaions always and now he seems to dissapear. We texted Monday and today is Wednesday, he suddenly dissapear and I noticed he's been logging in to his dating profile every day since.
I'm wondering what did I do wrong... I'm so sad because its so rare for me to find someone I like and when I finally do he just dissaper on me..
I'll really appreciate if you guys give me and opionion about that and what to do..
Thanx for reading my long story!
I think that was my mistake, I was too excited... and the make out thing went pretty hotttt.. I think it went too far to some point and maybe that's why he pulled away..
I mean, were you getting super clingy because you finally found somebody you're attracted to?
These are guesses. You have to call and ask him.
My guess is you got too excited. Kinda like a dog jumping all over you when you first come home. Maybe.
You think I have to call him? But isn't that too needy? I was thinking just to wait few days and text him, just what's happening with him and see how that will go. I hate texting but if he hasn't call me at all, why should I?
Don't put too much thought into this. He could be married, or have a gf or is a drug addict? You never know. Let it go. Its not you. Just be who you are.
I can identify with hardly being attracted someone, but you shouldn't let that cloud your judgement to the point of allowing yourself to fall for someone when there hasn't really been any real time for a connection to develop. Being attracted to someone happens rather quickly for some folks however, developing a TRUE connection is an entirely different animal.
honestly, i have complete mixed emotions on dating sites. They are great for getting dates and meeting people, beyond that.... there are too many options for both genders.. Too many options, people drop each other with the drop of a hat. Join some things that interest you.
OP, you didn't do anything wrong. He overdid the alcohol and couldn't keep the date. Is this the kind of guy you want to get involved with? Move on. Look for someone more reliable. It takes time to find someone compatible, and you've only been serious about your search for a year or so. And most people have trouble finding someone they click with, it's not just you. It's the story of this forum.
Last edited by Ruth4Truth; 08-31-2016 at 12:33 PM..
You think I have to call him? But isn't that too needy? I was thinking just to wait few days and text him, just what's happening with him and see how that will go. I hate texting but if he hasn't call me at all, why should I?
You probably should just move on. If he calls... Great!
An attractive girl coming on too strong? Man. Wish I had that problem. lol
Maybe he just lost interest?
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I think so
