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I guess I'm always acting like I'm in a boozer. I would rather stab myself in the eye than go to a lavish posh restaurant on a first date/first in person meeting.
What?! We have agreed on something here.
I mean what's the worse that can happen? Even if they didn't know how to behave in public, that's really not a reflection on me. I don't embarrass easily and love to have a good story for next time anyway.
I got a picture, I messaged, texted, talked. Now lets eat, sheesh. I wouldve been able to tell by this point if they were prone to explosive personality disorder antics, even if it had been hidden through all previous communication. I don't get a birthday taken away if they do get escorted out. I'd finish my drink. I know how to behave and assimilate.
I hate having dinner with my BIL, but my sister brings him, so I know I can still enjoy myself.
When mentioning that I had it in mind for when we first went out for an actual dinner date and not the first date/first time meeting ( usually after we know one another and had a few dates already )
When mentioning that I had it in mind for when we first went out for an actual dinner date and not the first date/first time meeting ( usually after we know one another and had a few dates already )
I apologise for not wording it properly.
No, I got it. You're a fancy-pants pretty boy. I'm just regular.
Not only have I reached the point where I always swipe right, I've also learnt that, when my phone is in battery saver mode, the next profile pops up faster after a swipe, so I can even swipe through the deck quicker. Actually, tapping the green like button is quicker, so I don't swipe anymore.
So far, I've gone out with 8 women, and 6 of them hooked up with me on the first day/night.
Vividly remember when I used to go through the pictures and profiles before swiping. Biggest waste of time.
Date a woman if you think men are so horrible and "depressing." We don't have to change just because you don't like how some operate.
Yeah, especially if someone like myself who thinks people should be taken on their individual character and not stereotyped is "depressing" her, I'd say her triggers are of the 1/2 lb. pull variety.
As a guy who's dated and known a good number of bisexual women (many who had same-sex relationships), if she thinks the grass is greener on the other side, she's probably going to be in for a shock. I wager a guess that she'll find women collectively "depressing" too for some reason or another too.
As a female, I don't swipe right on many men, only on ones I would actually be interested in talking to for potential dating purposes. This would seem like sort of a Duh thing, because why else would one swipe right? But apparently, that's not the case for guys.
This past week, I matched with 8 guys. One I matched with the last time I was on a year ago (he never spoke to me then, and this time, he closed the match within a few hours without speaking as well). I do prefer that the man take the lead and message first, but after a day or so with no messages, I decided to go ahead and message 4 of the remaining 7. (I didn't message all of them because I anticipated actually talking to some of them, and I don't like talking to more than 2 at a time.) Two of them didn't reply at all, one replied once, then I replied back, and then he closed out the match. The last remaining guy and I sent a couple of messages back and forth about how we knew our one mutual friend, and then he dropped off of communication.
What exactly is the point of swiping right on someone if you don't actually intend on talking to someone? Is it just a numbers game to see how many girls think you're cute? Do you not really want to date, but are passing time in boredom? WHAT IS IT?!?
For men, it's a numbers game. You'd have to swipe right roughly 30 women to get a response from 4 that you may be interested in.
Tinder is insane. I've gotten more responses in a week than 3 months on eharmony, match and okcupid combined. I could have dates lined up every night for the next two months. I really hope eventually I find a girl who sets herself apart from the crowd.
I have also found that I get way more responses on Tinder after years of being traditional dating sites. I wish Tinder in its present form came out years ago.
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What do people mean by responses? A match isn't a response. It's just a mutual like for lack of a better term. It's rather meaningless.
Actually meeting means something. Short of that. Nah, its all fantasy and a lot of time killing.
The problem with things like bumble, tinder, etc is there is so very very little info on the other person. You meet and you find you have little to nothing in common, and they just aren't your people. It's little different than randomly meeting people out. Sorry, to me, those odds suck. It works find for casual fun nights out, but that's about it. I did date one person for a couple of months, but we weren't right for each other, but we liked each other and she was very sensual. That was about it though. With OKC, the odds of a real match seem SOOOOOO very much higher, even though the mutual likes are fewer, because they're based on more (and there are probably fewer people randomly swiping).
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I have also found that I get way more responses on Tinder after years of being traditional dating sites. I wish Tinder in its present form came out years ago.
This.
I've never done well with traditional sites like OKcupid, POF compared to apps like Coffee Meets Bagel, Tinder, Dine, etc.
Yeah, especially if someone like myself who thinks people should be taken on their individual character and not stereotyped is "depressing" her, I'd say her triggers are of the 1/2 lb. pull variety.
As a guy who's dated and known a good number of bisexual women (many who had same-sex relationships), if she thinks the grass is greener on the other side, she's probably going to be in for a shock. I wager a guess that she'll find women collectively "depressing" too for some reason or another too.
I tend to stay away from women who are bisexual.
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Actually, tapping the green like button is quicker, so I don't swipe anymore. 
