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3 months ago my boyfriend decided with his friend to go to a rave and have a guys night. I know I shouldnt have but when I was looking through his phone (out of curiosity, not because I thought he would cheat or anything along those lines) I saw the conversation with him and one of his friends talking about it. It was a month after they spoke about it and he still didnt mention it to me. I dont think he was trying to hide it, but why wouldnt he have told me the plans and think "well maybe my girlfriend wouldnt like me goin to a rave wit my buddy where girls are all drugged up and half dressed" or why wouldnt he think to invite me? He knows I wouldnt have liked ithat he would do that but didnt take my feelings into consideration. The rave is next thirsday and he asked me to come but now I dont want to since he didnt want me to come to begin with and hes just asking out of pitty. I dont know how to feel about this... advice anyone?
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3 months ago my boyfriend decided with his friend to go to a rave and have a guys night. I know I shouldnt have but when I was looking through his phone (out of curiosity, not because I thought he would cheat or anything along those lines) I saw the conversation with him and one of his friends talking about it. It was a month after they spoke about it and he still didnt mention it to me. I dont think he was trying to hide it, but why wouldnt he have told me the plans and think "well maybe my girlfriend wouldnt like me goin to a rave wit my buddy where girls are all drugged up and half dressed" or why wouldnt he think to invite me? He knows I wouldnt have liked ithat he would do that but didnt take my feelings into consideration. The rave is next thirsday and he asked me to come but now I dont want to since he didnt want me to come to begin with and hes just asking out of pitty. I dont know how to feel about this... advice anyone?
Why does he have to consider your feelings to go out for a night out with the boys? ........ He's been looking forward to this for 3 months and you guilt him into firstly inviting you and secondly then moan because he didn't inform you sooner
Of course the most obvious reason why he didn't tell you was in case you got worried and started a thread on city data or something silly like that
Lmao I never had to deal wit something like this before thats why im desperate enough to ask for advice from people I dont even know, I think he shoulda thought of my feelings since the last time we went to a party, he bitchhed at me for 4 days that guys were checkin me out and I dressed conservatively and was wit him the whole night until we left cuz I saw he was feeling uncomfterable. I trust him, I dont trust other people and I dont want girls checkin him out the same way he didnt like it.
Why does he have to consider your feelings to go out for a night out with the boys? ........ He's been looking forward to this for 3 months and you guilt him into firstly inviting you and secondly then moan because he didn't inform you sooner
Of course the most obvious reason why he didn't tell you was in case you got worried and started a thread on city data or something silly like that
Honestly let him enjoy his night out please.
If you ever been to a rave you'd understand her concerns, Lol
I would certainly disapprove of my girlfriend going as a 'girls night out' to a rave.
Exactly and ive been to plenty raves so I kno wat its about and I would never think to go to a place like that without asking him to come wit me and find it strange that he would.
Lmao I never had to deal wit something like this before thats why im desperate enough to ask for advice from people I dont even know, I think he shoulda thought of my feelings since the last time we went to a party, he bitchhed at me for 4 days that guys were checkin me out and I dressed conservatively and was wit him the whole night until we left cuz I saw he was feeling uncomfterable. I trust him, I dont trust other people and I dont want girls checkin him out the same way he didnt like it.
If you trust him, then why would other people matter?
Do you think someone is going to force themselves on him?
You both sound like you have trust issues, not a good sign in a relationship.
Exactly and ive been to plenty raves so I kno wat its about and I would never think to go to a place like that without asking him to come wit me and find it strange that he would.
I'm going to be honest, if you're not going with him (and hes "roll'n") its not going to be an innocent night out with the guys.
We have our own insecurities because we love eachothwr so much, I just didnt expect him not to involve me, maybe im over reacting or maybe he doesnt care about how I feel about the situation which I see as a problem
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