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Let's say you have gone on a few dates with a girl. You take her out to dinner, ignite her emotional brain, she is having fun, she seems to be digging you, enjoying the time with you. You start flirting, touching her hands, getting touchy, etc. How do you mention that you want her to go with you to somewhere private without sounding awkward. In other words, how do you tell her you want to have sex with her without being obvious and ruin the moment
I was thinking something like
You know I'm really having a good time with you, but what do you say we go somewhere more private?
How do you hint that you want intimacy, in other words, take her to a motel or your apartment and being smooth at the same time?
I feel like saying "what do you say we go to..." is like asking for permission, and it may be better to just say you are taking somewhere more private, without mentioning where, shell get the hint and will say yes or not
If you mention sex or what you want exactly, it will kill the emotional part
Let's say you have gone on a few dates with a girl. You take her out to dinner, ignite her emotional brain, she is having fun, she seems to be digging you, enjoying the time with you. You start flirting, touching her hands, getting touchy, etc. How do you mention that you want her to go with you to somewhere private without sounding awkward. In other words, how do you tell her you want to have sex with her without being obvious and ruin the moment
I was thinking something like
You know I'm really having a good time with you, but what do you say we go somewhere more private?
How do you hint that you want intimacy, in other words, take her to a motel or your apartment and being smooth at the same time?
I feel like saying "what do you say we go to..." is like asking for permission, and it may be better to just say you are taking somewhere more private, without mentioning where, shell get the hint and will say yes or not
If you mention sex or what you want exactly, it will kill the emotional part
i agree with this, the key is to put yourself in a position to win.
maybe 'do you want to come over to my place and watch a movie"
if she says yes, that's a good sign.
the key is to appear to 'go slow' if you really like her as a long term gf or possible wife, take your time. if she's a one night stand kind of girl, well, i'm sure you hand that differently. depends on what you want in the weeks and months ahead.
i agree with this, the key is to put yourself in a position to win.
maybe 'do you want to come over to my place and watch a movie"
if she says yes, that's a good sign.
the key is to appear to 'go slow' if you really like her as a long term gf or possible wife, take your time. if she's a one night stand kind of girl, well, i'm sure you hand that differently. depends on what you want in the weeks and months ahead.
that's why I'm asking for a smooth way to initiate sex without stating the obvious, never state what you are going to do. What if I cannot take her to my apartment, what if I have a roommate and need to take her to a motel?
I feel like asking is too nice [Mod cut.], youre asking for permission, and it doesn't make you sound sure of yourself.
I'm really enjoying my time with you so far, but now I will take you somewhere else where you and I can spend some time alone. She will get the hint. You are not asking for permission, you are the leader. I feel like you should be touching her somehow, while you say this. Touching her hands or kissing her.
Women are submissive and they want the man to make the decision, to lead
Whether you ask for permission or state what you want, if she is not feeling you, she will deny either way, so might as well just be bold and lead, but is better to do it in a smooth way, so you dont look like a fool
Last edited by PJSaturn; 09-21-2016 at 09:14 PM..
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Haven't you youngsters ever heard of "Netflix and chill"??
Must we throw you young'ns into a pen together like pandas in the zoo and lock the door until we hear the furniture stop creaking?
I miss the 80s, when people knew how to have sex.
Anyway, good luck, OP. But I'll leave you with this hint: until people ceased to understand how to communicate while actually in the same room together rather than texts or Instagram, we used to build up to it. Make out, then the next date, make out plus some touching, then the next date at a private locale...something along those lines. It sounds crazy but it just might work. Or...it seems like it did for about the past 30,000 years or so, anyway.
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