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It really felt insulting. It's been about a week since he said it but it's all I think about when he gets a hard on now. I don't find him as sexually attractive after since he said it either
All I can say is that is something I'd never say to my GF. Ever.
I'm not big on rushing to the "it's time to jump ship" advice, but I think this is pretty cut and dry. Maybe you can have a talk with him before hand to see if he's a little more reasonable and sensitive when he's not boozed up. But from what you've indicated here, that doesn't seem likely. It's always worth a try though.
"A drunk man speaks a sober man's thoughts." He just told you he's with you because you have sex with him, early and often, and he doesn't respect you for it. If he did, he wouldn't have said anything like that to you. Stick up for yourself and dump him now.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 09-22-2016 at 07:27 PM..
Reason: Personal attack.
Sex on the first date and letting him in whenever he says "gimme that" sounds pretty easy to me!
^^^ Not only that. You BF is calling you loose and easy, and you go around and ask people if you should feel insulted or not? Do you feel insulted?? Or is his insult erased by "I love you anyway"??
You should ask yourself, not us, and decide if you want to put up with that or not.
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"A drunk man speaks a sober man's thoughts." He just told you he's with you because you have sex with him, early and often, and he doesn't respect you for it. If he did, he wouldn't have said anything like that to you. Stick up for yourself and dump him now.
^^^ This. And try not to be so loose and easy in the future, or you will hear that again and again...
It really felt insulting. It's been about a week since he said it but it's all I think about when he gets a hard on now. I don't find him as sexually attractive after since he said it either
That's what the man was saying. First date sex. He was clear on that. I guess this is one reason it's best to wait and get to know someone before *cough* *cough* "taking it to the next level". Or leap-frogging over a couple of levels, as the case may be.
Let's just say he doesn't seem to be into her for her personality.
It is definitely insulting, he might as well have called you a [bleep]. Is he respectful and does he treat you well other than this episode, do you feel he values you as much as you do him?
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He said out of all the girls he dated I was the easiest to get into
What ocnjgirl said is spot on.....
Look at it from the opposite side of the coin..... If it's not an insult would you say ^^^^ was a compliment or flattering?
I had sex with my boyfriend on the first date too. He's my husband now. Not once has he ever insulted me for it or put me down. Guys who appreciate an enthusiastic lover will never say dumb crud like that. It "felt insulting" because it was. "Loose" is never complimentary.
I would never call the woman I was dating that because it is disrespectful and rude.
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