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Originally Posted by ratherbcrazycatlady
The motivation to give my number and /or meet 60 men in a year, is what I mean. I do like to meet new people, it's just not the Amazing Race atmosphere for me as it seems to be for others. I don't know what the urgency is.
Well, I don't think there is one answer to that. For me, when I choose to seek a relationship I put time into it and frankly it is fun. Meeting new people and talking is a lot of fun, I really like first/early dates. Of course there are some clunkers, but even if there is no chemistry I find it an enjoyable thing to do. One a week isn't many people at all, but I generally only give it a month or so then take a break as it can be time consuming, and even expensive, and there is more to life that I don't want to neglect. Lots of people I know where I live, around my age, are going out 5+ nights a week, so fitting in one person for a date isn't much of anything.
Well I met most of them that messaged me unless I could tell prior that they were no good. Then I would just meet them fast. Like ice cream or coffee and high tail it out of there.
That makes sense! I take longer to get comfortable enough to meet someone and make a bigger production out of it I don't go out with or talk to more than one person at a time anymore either, that became too confusing.
The motivation to give my number and /or meet 60 men in a year, is what I mean. I do like to meet new people, it's just not the Amazing Race atmosphere for me as it seems to be for others. I don't know what the urgency is.
Well I wanted to get married and live happily ever after so I was feeling like I had already wasted enough time, and wanted to jump right in and find mr. right. What I learned is that there is no such thing as a mr.right and I do not have enough patience to deal with the idiots I attract.
That makes sense! I take longer to get comfortable enough to meet someone and make a bigger production out of it I don't go out with or talk to more than one person at a time anymore either, that became too confusing.
Nah I would talk to a few at a time. I would even schedule them on the same day, so I would not have to drive back to town.
Well, I don't think there is one answer to that. For me, when I choose to seek a relationship I put time into it and frankly it is fun. Meeting new people and talking is a lot of fun, I really like first/early dates. Of course there are some clunkers, but even if there is no chemistry I find it an enjoyable thing to do. One a week isn't many people at all, but I generally only give it a month or so then take a break as it can be time consuming, and even expensive, and there is more to life that I don't want to neglect. Lots of people I know where I live, around my age, are going out 5+ nights a week, so fitting in one person for a date isn't much of anything.
Agreed. I like to look forward to it, the planning, texting, finding out that another person out there 'gets' me, they aren't always saying: "huh?" That's rare and exciting
Well I wanted to get married and live happily ever after so I was feeling like I had already wasted enough time, and wanted to jump right in and find mr. right. What I learned is that there is no such thing as a mr.right and I do not have enough patience to deal with the idiots I attract.
You wanted to get married so you met one super-fast for ice cream, tossed him out fast, met another quick, tossed him out fast, grabbed another with hyper-kenetic energy, threw him aside while getting dressed for the next quick "date" and so on? That's how you go about seeking permanence and quality?
Sixty men and they were somehow all idiots, but...not you, the common denominator? There was nothing wrong with ONE of you, there was wrong with SIXTY men from all different walks of life, all different pasts, personalities, situations, families, etc., etc., etc.?
#logicfail
Do you want to learn from any of this or is it more comfortable to say they're all "idiots" out there, with only you, apparently, the one high-quality person in this entire debacle?
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I don't go out with or talk to more than one person at a time anymore either, that became too confusing.
