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I just had an interesting conversation with two older (mid 30s & 40s) female friends of mine about marital cheating and a husband leaving you for another woman.
During the conversation, both women stated that it would hurt "MORE" getting left for a younger woman that has the face and body of a model than it would be getting left for a woman that is not as attractive.
This seems very confusing because, to me cheating is cheating, the attraction level or age of the person you are left for should not matter.
I'm interested in hearing the thoughts of other women on this subject. I think we all agree that being cheated on and left by a long-term partner or husband is bad, so that is NOT the question.
The question is would it be worse to be left for someone younger, better looking, and sexier than you? Why
No one can determine how anyone else will feel about a specific situation and the one involved in the situation can only guess what their feelings are going to be if not in that specific situation.
I figure if he thinks he can do better then go on and go do better and quit wasting my time.
No one can determine how anyone else will feel about a specific situation and the one involved in the situation can only guess what their feelings are going to be if not in that specific situation.
I figure if he thinks he can do better then go on and go do better and quit wasting my time.
I could see their point. Because if he leaves you for a dumpy woman, you think "WTH?" It's confusing more than anything.
But if he leaves you for someone who is hotter than you, and beautiful, you can't even say "What does he see in her?" Because you, and most other people who find out, can look at her and tell why he may have wanted her.
Then also, if the lady in question is kinda average or dumpy, you can think maybe he likes her personality or may just click better in some way w/ her. It's an internal or mental deal. Versus being dropped because you're just ugly and they wanted something better to look at, and sleep with. When it comes to vanity and physical appearance, some will be very sensitive to that.
The above mainly goes for someone who may naturally be insecure however. More confident women may admit the other woman is hot, and write her ex off as shallow, rather than being down on herself.
Last edited by HappyRain; 10-15-2016 at 08:43 PM..
I just had an interesting conversation with two older (mid 30s & 40s) female friends of mine about marital cheating and a husband leaving you for another woman.
During the conversation, both women stated that it would hurt "MORE" getting left for a younger woman that has the face and body of a model than it would be getting left for a woman that is not as attractive.
This seems very confusing because, to me cheating is cheating, the attraction level or age of the person you are left for should not matter.
I'm interested in hearing the thoughts of other women on this subject. I think we all agree that being cheated on and left by a long-term partner or husband is bad, so that is NOT the question.
The question is would it be worse to be left for someone younger, better looking, and sexier than you? Why
Yes, cheating is cheating. Your poll doesn't include the option: "it wouldn't make any difference". Also, you need to ask if infidelity would sting more if the husband cheated with anolder woman or a plain, average woman. It's not as unusual as you think. For example, if the wife never got back in shape after a couple of kids, but the older woman has never had kids and looks young, and is energetic, a guy who feels like he's in a rut at home would be attracted to that. Not to mention all the married guys who are on the once-a-week plan or worse.
It seems much more logical to be more offended and hurt if they leave you for someone who is not as good as you in whatever way. It could be look for looks or for money or smarts or career whatever.
It kind of puts the exclamation point on how much you must have to suck for someone ugly and stupid and old and lazy to beat you out for your partner.
I would imagine it would be a sting if someone was left for someone much younger and better looking. IDK. Haven't been the victim of a someone going for an upgrade so I can only speculate at this point. If Mrs. Chow dumps me for the pool boy I'll come back and update this thread.
Meh it's never crossed my mind because it's not even a remote possibility. If a person cheats on anyone they're a disgusting individual and aren't worth giving a care about. People who cheat say a lot about themselves. They're insecure in some way, shape, or form. Maybe wife makes them feel that way. Maybe work causes feelings of inadequacy... whatever it is the cheater is the broken one.
If a man who committed himself to me (and I to him) decided to get together with someone else while still committed to our relationship, it wouldn't matter to me who she is, how old she is, how attractive she is, w/e. The betrayal would be something I could not readily forgive. They can have each other. It is purely his act of betrayal that would hurt, whether she looked like Angelina Jolie, Mimi from The Drew Carey Show, or Dame Judi Dench is completely beside the point in my opinion.
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