I think I might have messed up.

[sskkc]

I did this once... a long time ago.

I was living with this guy. He was recently divorced, I was young and dumb. I'd been living with him for 3 months.

I hadn't seen Doug (ex) in 1 1/2 years... didn't really think about him - I was OBSESSED with Scott (man I was living with).

So, one morning I wake up, he's up on his elbow, watching me sleep and smiling... I couldn't remember his name! I really tried and finally guessed, "Doug?" There went the smile. And the next week too.

The relationship didn't last (on and off for 4 years - what a waste!)- he didn't trust me before that (ex wife issues) and he never did after that either.

I'm married to a man named Scott now... he tells me that whenever I'm mad at him, he figures I must mean my ex.

[Denise in Fla]

When hubby and I first got together, he would call me by his ex-wifes name out of habit, they were married for 30 yrs. It didn't bother me, I would just call him by ex-husbands name, and we would laugh. If you feel secure with your s/o it shouldn't be a big deal.

[Sam I Am]

My ex-husband and my boss have the same names...and my husband thinks that's his name, too...he's been called "Richard" more times than I can count, and yes...at the most inappropriate times. Even my family calls him Richard......he just laughs. The ex was 20 years ago, the boss I've been with 15 years...so husband is the newbie on the block at 10 years.

The other poster was right - we ARE creatures of habit - I'd say shake it off, laugh, talk about what a goof you are...and let it go.

[jasonakers4]

Originally Posted by Mooseketeer

Hopefully it's something which can be solved with a frank discussion and an open mind. I think you should definitely talk about it. Tell him how embarrassed you were, hold your hands up and admit to committing a Faux-Pas.

Do explain to him what a jerk your old boyfriend was and that there are no unresolved issues and no latent feelings or emotions towards your ex apart from negative ones.

Basically be honest, and don't sweep the subject under the carpet. It happened, confront it.

Ask him how he genuinely feels about it. He too needs to be honest about it.

It really should not be the end of the world. It was only a slip of the tongue and nothing else.

You need to reassure him and if he is reasonable he should accept your apologies and forget about it.

To be honest if a relationship should flounder because of such a silly thing, it would be a relationship not worth having.
He should be grown up enough to accept that our brains sometimes does not work quite as fast as our tongue.

Although I mostly believe what you say a simple "slip of the tounge" can be the end of alot of things. Call it shallow or whatever you may call it but calling your signifigant other a "b****" at the wrong time can be long term pain and end a relationship. I am a guy and I know first hand how slip of the tounges mess things up badly. If some one were to call be by an ex boyfriends name, depending on the situation, I would be hurt and definately suspicious.

He will eventually get over it but you should not push him to do so. He knows you want him to forget about it if you simply appologize then its up to him to do the rest. You cant force something to heal, and depending on how deep it hurt depends on the time it takes to heal.