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I didn't have a license until I moved to a rural-ish area a few years ago. I never needed a license. It never occurred to me that I might be judged because of that.
There is a difference between dating someone in NYC without a car and dating someone in most suburban and rural areas without a car. You have to think about practicality in these situations. I would not want to become someone's unpaid chaffeaur eventually.
Years ago my friend married a woman that did not drive. We told him that he was in love now and thought it didn't matter. Then we told him it would be a pain in the a** when you have to drive her everywhere she has to go. He found out we were right. The marriage didn't last.
Unless you live in a major metro area with several methods of transportation I would say it's a deal breaker for me.
My friend recently got married and she doesn't have a license or a car due to extreme anxiety about driving. But I think her parents still give her rides a lot so that her husband doesn't have to do it all the time.
As long as the person is able to be mostly self reliant and continues with that I don't have an issue. On the otherhand if someone just thinks I'm going to let them use one of my vehicles so they can have something to drive they are mistaken.
I don't think it's a big deal and I don't think it should be. I'm sure there are tons of people in NYC that don't have a drivers license... So what?!
Where is the compassion for people who have had bad experiences in their life.
It depends where you live. NYC is better than California. What makes you think people who are driving don't have bad experience. We all do. We all have to cary on regardless.
At the time I met my husband he hadn't owned a car in 10 years. He rode his bike, used roller blades or his Razor scooter. He also used the light rail/public transport.
His main method of transportation is this awesome scooter. Saves on gas and he enjoys it. If we go somewhere together or with the entire family then we use the van.
Since I don't have a license, due to a disability, I'd have no problem dating someone who also didn't have a license.
And, I'm not surprised to see that many posters here would not date someone without a license. I suspect that is one factor (certainly not the only one) contributing to my perpetual single-ness.
As long as the person was entirely self-sufficient in getting himself to wherever he needed to go, it wouldn't bother me. IOW, if I were, say, back in New York I wouldn't be too surprised at a person not owning a car, because you can get from anywhere, to anywhere in NYC (well, more or less) using public transportation.
I would expect a potential date to feel the same way about me - that his concern was that I was self-sufficient and able to get myself where I needed to go, not that I had a car, per se.
Bikes are great but unless there's also some awesome public transportation available I'd have some concerns, if that were his ONLY means of transport. You can only go so far and so fast on a bike and that's that.
Now, no license? That WOULD bother me because one's situation could change at any time and what if you previously didn't need to drive, but now you do? What now? Yes, you could hurry and study your DVM manual and get there to take your written and your driving and blah, blah but that would probably take at least a bit of time...I don't know...it would seem very unprepared to me, just to never have gotten a license.
In so Cal you pretty much need a car, for the most part. Public transport here sucks and things are spread too far and wide to not have a car. If someone didn't have a car and no license that would be an odd thing for here. At least have the license so that if you needed to rent a car or to drive a car for whatever reason it wouldn't be a big thing.
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