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Here's a current example of the BS that I deal with. A girl approached me at the gym about a month ago under the guise of becoming my gym buddy. I had no idea how to interpret this. We went to the gym a few times and then went out a few times. Again, I had no idea what was going on so I asked her on a legitimate date (this was only 2 weeks into knowing each other....I didn't want to wait around). She rejected me, saying that she only wanted to be friends.
I was upset but got over it in a day or 2 (in that time, I met this new girl). The gym girl invited me to the gym, but I declined.
After I got rejected by the new girl yesterday, I was, again, upset. So I contacted the gym girl, my "friend", that lives in my complex. I went over to her place to talk about this, since we're friends. Well, she got upset with me that I didn't pursue her more and was asking me why. She then gave me a story about a current guy that she rejected and he is now pursuing her, which she likes.
She was also upset that I called her up only when I needed to talk about something that was upsetting me.
But I thought we were friends. Guess not. What she really wanted was for me to pursue her. Why not just say that?
It got me wondering whether or not the current girl is doing the same thing (and many women have done this to me in the past, more women than not actually).
lol..and this is why us guys think a lot of women are just absolutely insane.
some women like these just enjoy the ego boost it seems like.
Yup. Gone are the days of logic in the courting process. This is because it all hinges on female emotion and their sense of morality (and we all know how that goes).
ur exactly right.
these days, women simply change their mind like the wind based on anything and everything. they might be so interested in you one day and then drop off the face of the earth the next one. this is why i don't even get excited when a woman shows interest anymore. i just assume it wont last.
Imagine what? That I'm describing that situation as going out with a friend, to me that's what it is. Everyone has different perspectives.
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It can't be a friend if he's a stranger. If you've never met the person before (OLD first date, or blind date, or someone you've only met briefly), he's not a friend. He's someone you're becoming acquainted with, which is dating, unless you both have decided in advance that you only have a platonic interest in each other. But no one does that on OLD, or it's very rare, and that's not what blind dates are about, either. Nor are dates that result from chatting with someone in a public place (grocery store, concert, whatever).
these days, women simply change their mind like the wind based on anything and everything. they might be so interested in you one day and then drop off the face of the earth the next one. this is why i don't even get excited when a woman shows interest anymore. i just assume it wont last.
So, you regard the cascade of threads on here about men who do exactly what you describe as what, works of fiction?
lol..and this is why us guys think a lot of women are just absolutely insane.
some women like these just enjoy the ego boost it seems like.
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Originally Posted by 2kCity33
ur exactly right.
these days, women simply change their mind like the wind based on anything and everything. they might be so interested in you one day and then drop off the face of the earth the next one. this is why i don't even get excited when a woman shows interest anymore. i just assume it wont last.
Yup. I have no patience for this. I've friendzoned the gym buddy and will pretty much only contact her to vent about all of the BS I'm sure to continuously encounter now that I'm actively dating again.
The one that friendzoned me is still an option though. There's a lot more to the story than what I wrote. She actually has legitimate reasons for playing games. So I'm giving that one the benefit of the doubt.
So, you regard the cascade of threads on here about men who do exactly what you describe as what, works of fiction?
Men don't seem to do this as much as women. And if women keep encountering this, maybe they should stop chasing the Jakes and Chads and give some of us normal guys a chance. Just a thought.
It can't be a friend if he's a stranger. If you've never met the person before (OLD first date, or blind date, or someone you've only met briefly), he's not a friend. He's someone you're becoming acquainted with, which is dating, unless you both have decided in advance that you only have a platonic interest in each other. But no one does that on OLD, or it's very rare, and that's not what blind dates are about, either. Nor are dates that result from chatting with someone in a public place (grocery store, concert, whatever).
Well...if we're going to continue going down this road, someone I'm getting aquainted with isn't my date until I'm out on a date. Someone I messaged with, then texted with, then talked to on phone, got along well enough to meet in person seems like a friend. I think the debate about whether to call them friend or date is a-non issue. I think of them as my date when I'm on a date with them, otherwise they're seen as my friend. That's my idea, I was open to suggestion but haven't found anything incorrect about it for my experience.
Yup. I have no patience for this. I've friendzoned the gym buddy and will pretty much only contact her to vent about all of the BS I'm sure to continuously encounter now that I'm actively dating again.
The one that friendzoned me is still an option though. There's a lot more to the story than what I wrote. She actually has legitimate reasons for playing games. So I'm giving that one the benefit of the doubt.
Of course, I'm still meeting other women.
If she has legitimate reasons, then it's not game-playing that she's engaged in. She's give you the straight story.
(Didn't you say you're the logical one?)
Men don't seem to do this as much as women. And if women keep encountering this, maybe they should stop chasing the Jakes and Chads and give some of us normal guys a chance. Just a thought.
Have you considered stopping chasing the gym hotties and giving the normal women a chance?
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