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Originally Posted by old_cold
Excuse me. I thought you were talking about sex.
Regardless , unless VERY casually dating, I don't think 3 days is a TON.
Eh, with adults, it often is. Often one has kids, or elderly parents, other family or social obligations, professional obligations, and many people want a evening or two of downtime.
I wasn't thinking you were, even seeing someone 3x a week for a date/activity/meal is a lot, especially in the beginning.
So chill out and do that. It sounds like that is what you were doing.
And honestly, this might end, and there may be 3, 4, 8, or more other men after that before you find the right one. That's fine.
Only one of those days we would actually be going out the other two days would basically be for sex. I just need more sex, once a week is not cutting it. I had a long dry spell so maybe I'm losing my mind now that I've had some. I thought men liked sexual women? What guy wouldn't want a woman that is hot for him all of the time? This guy I guess.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by geminigirl7
Only one of those days we would actually be going out the other two days would basically be for sex. I just need more sex, once a week is not cutting it. I had a long dry spell so maybe I'm losing my mind now that I've had some. I thought men liked sexual women? What guy wouldn't want a woman that is hot for him all of the time? This guy I guess.
I love sex. I'm a 45 yo guy, and love it. And sure, love sexual and sensual (they're different) women. Love it more the more I like the person I'm having it with. But it isn't everything. There is more to life. There is my career, my friends, my hobbies. Sometimes things get dropped for sex, and that's great, but sometimes climbing a mountain, or getting in the kayak, or seeing a band I really like with a group of friends will take priority. Sex isn't going anywhere. Balance is a good thing. And it isn't like being a teen or 20 something where sex was something that was in scarce supply, or it felt like it. Now there is tons of sex to be had, been doing it for 27 years, it doesn't get old, but it isn't the end all and be all of life.
That's what I'm afraid of because he seemed more interested in me before we slept together. I don't want to be with him all day every day, I have a job and a child and my own life but I didn't think a few hours two or three days a week was a lot. Maybe I'm completely off base. I just need sex more than once a week. I would think most men would be happy to have a woman that was so into sex. I don't want a serious relationship but I have physical needs. Basically I want to talk for an hour, have sex then he can leave.
Talk to him about nooner's and quickee's versus make a night/date out it. Approach him with we are both busy in life but let us carve a little "sex" time out for ourselves.
Talk to him about nooner's and quickee's versus make a night/date out it. Approach him with we are both busy in life but let us carve a little "sex" time out for ourselves.
I wish but with our schedules an afternoon quickie isn't possible. I have a busy life so I'm not looking for a stud to be available at my beck and call but once a week isn't enough. Maybe I need a new hobby to get my mind off of sex. Knitting at night just doesn't seem as fun.
Only one of those days we would actually be going out the other two days would basically be for sex. I just need more sex, once a week is not cutting it. I had a long dry spell so maybe I'm losing my mind now that I've had some. I thought men liked sexual women? What guy wouldn't want a woman that is hot for him all of the time? This guy I guess.
Where is your son going to be during all this 'wild sex' you want? And why is this 6 week fling all about you & what you want..?
I think you need to come back down to Earth for a minute..lol
Believe me, I understand what sex does to a woman (I am one) , but you gotta get control of yourself here & consider the fact that he may not want to be used for sex - or roped into a relationship with a single mother of a young child.. (no offense, but it is what it is)
* The power of the p is strong, but a grown man knows the ins & outs of the game and how to play it without being played for a fool.
...but sometimes climbing a mountain, or getting in the kayak, or seeing a band I really like with a group of friends will take priority. Sex isn't going anywhere. Balance is a good thing. And it isn't like being a teen or 20 something where sex was something that was in scarce supply, or it felt like it. Now there is tons of sex to be had, been doing it for 27 years, it doesn't get old, but it isn't the end all and be all of life.
Her thinking is different than yours is though, I get what she's saying. Why cant it be: climb a mountain, then have sex. Get in the kayak, then find a place to have sex. See a band you like, then have sex.
I actually think OPs wants and expectations aren't unhealthy at all, she's just having a relationship with the wrong guy, IMO.
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Originally Posted by Cardiff Giant
We're on our way.
-Men in our 40s.
This is what's fun to hear! Let's have a little enthusiasm, the lady just wants more sex
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Her thinking is different than yours is though, I get what she's saying. Why cant it be: climb a mountain, then have sex. Get in the kayak, then find a place to have sex. See a band you like, then have sex.
Because she isn't going to be there for all those things. People, when they're dating someone, shouldn't be dropping all their hobbies and friends JUST to hang out with those people (and most people don't from what I see, not as adults). One's social life and hobbies don't get put on hold just to fit in more sex, there is a balance.
And being a mother, she isn't going to be free to spontaneously doing those things anyway, even if she wanted to join in and he wanted her to be there all the time.
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Originally Posted by RbccL
This is what's fun to hear! Let's have a little enthusiasm, the lady just wants more sex
Has anyone implied she isn't free to have more? I didn't see where they agreed to be exclusive.
You have a 4 year old child. He has grown children. You've already said you wanted your child out of the house when you had sex with him. Perhaps he's started to realize that he may not want to seriously date someone with a 4 year old child. As the parent of adult children I can tell you it's sometimes exhausting to be around young children again. There is a freedom that comes with having grown children, and I don't think I'd want to go back to having a young one around all of the time again.
When you see him on Saturdays is your child there? I'm guessing your child is there during the week. Perhaps those are the reasons for his increased absence: him really thinking about how involved he wants to be with a woman with a young child, and not wanting to hang out when the child is there.
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