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Hubby and I sleep on separate beds and have for years. Every night I would wake him up several times to roll over. We both slept horribly. We moved into a house that had two master bedrooms and solved the problem! You have to do what's right for your marriage and not worry about what anyone else thinks.
Would it bother you if wife slept in separate beds because of your snoring?
You should NOT be upset. My ex husband had to sleep in the other room because I snored. And it's not your fault you snore. Well, sometimes it's from being overweight, but for me it's just something I was born with. However, as someone said, a c-pap machine will help you and may change your life.
You need a prescription for a machine. Make an appointment with a sleep doctor and schedule a sleep study. If the c-pap helps it will change your life. You will not be tired all the time. You will be able to focus. Your wife will probably sleep in the same room. However, if she doesnt, it's no big deal. Some people sleep better alone.
I have to reiterate that you need a sleep study. It's worth paying for it yourself if your insurance doesn't cover it. And, if you snore, you're not getting quality sleep. I had zero REM sleep when they measured my study. Also, snoring puts you at risk for stroke. You'll be so happy you won't care where your wife sleeps... well that didn't come out quite right but you know what I mean... lol.
My wife sometimes gets up and goes to sleep on the sofa. She has trouble sleeping, but she can fall asleep to certain videos (most specifically, one of the several different versions of Pride & Prejudice she has). Of course, the light and sound would disturb my sleep. So to the sofa she goes (where she does sleep well). I actually sleep a little better when I have the bed to myself, but I'd rather have her there beside me. But if she can't sleep at all on some nights, she does what she has to do.
That's life.
Sometimes it intrudes on the way we wish things were.
I have the same thing, (almost), my wife complains that it's too hot, and goes down to the sofa.
I have a good night's sleep on my own, but I'd rather she was there, for no other reason than I love her, and would rather wake up and see her, than wake up on my own.
Could hang a vertical, sound absorbing pad from the ceiling on a track and slide it forward to separate the snoring from the non snoring. Pad could just touch the bed. Then, turn a fan on on the non snoring side. I haven't tried this, but it seems like it might work.
I would be bugged a lot. Considering how little time many couples spend together, sleeping together is important. I sleep soundly but I definitely know and can feel/sense us holding each other at night. And there is certainly a lot of spontaneity lost if you're in separate rooms. If the snoring is THAT bad then the answer is a medical consult so the snorer can sleep better and healthier, not to just not disturb the other person.
Marriage isn't made in bed. Matter of fact ...It's a rest from it. We each need that space.
Lucille Ball said it's how she managed to have a solid 2nd marriage....Since her first marriage was hubby sharing a bed with many a female.
You're adults...Not conjoined at the hips.
Heck even newborns have their own sleeping area. .
Would it bother you if wife slept in separate beds because of your snoring?
No it would not bother me , but it certainly would bother wifey " a great deal " as to her sleeping in the same bed with her hubby has a lot to do with sex...romance...
She would feel taken advantage of , if the only time I slept in the same bed with her was when I was having sex or better yet making love to her.
My wife is a 60 year old ( Night Owl ) and I am a 65 years Young go to bed early ( forced Night Owl ) "because my job"....starts at1:00AM. I have planned on retiring and working this job as a side job but not anymore , I value sleep over mo...money or sex!!!
My wife has sleep apnea and I mainly sleep with her just to be there for CPR if needed , because she can saw a good log or two....if you know what I mean.
You should NOT be upset. My ex husband had to sleep in the other room because I snored. And it's not your fault you snore. Well, sometimes it's from being overweight, but for me it's just something I was born with. However, as someone said, a c-pap machine will help you and may change your life.
You need a prescription for a machine. Make an appointment with a sleep doctor and schedule a sleep study. If the c-pap helps it will change your life. You will not be tired all the time. You will be able to focus. Your wife will probably sleep in the same room. However, if she doesnt, it's no big deal. Some people sleep better alone.
I have to reiterate that you need a sleep study. It's worth paying for it yourself if your insurance doesn't cover it. And, if you snore, you're not getting quality sleep. I had zero REM sleep when they measured my study. Also, snoring puts you at risk for stroke. You'll be so happy you won't care where your wife sleeps... well that didn't come out quite right but you know what I mean... lol.
About 25%-50% of patients can't handle the C-pap. They're uncomfortable with it, for any number of reasons. I sure couldn't sleep in the same room with one; they're very noisy. I don't know how anyone can sleep with one of those things roaring by their head all night, forcing air down their throat. It does help some people; they feel it's a godsend, so, good for them. Try it, and see.
Otherwise, there are other treatment options, from dental device to hormone replacement therapy, depending on the age of the patient, and other factors.
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