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Old 11-22-2016, 02:40 PM
 
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So, you have a physical disability, yet women are mean to you? How about men? Are they mean to you also?
Well, finally we are told the whole story.

Disabilities change everything especially if you're around shallow people .
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Old 11-22-2016, 02:43 PM
 
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So, you have a physical disability, yet women are mean to you? How about men? Are they mean to you also?
For the most part, men largely ignore me, seem to act as though I am "not there", at social or group functions and similar. (Also, fwiw, I am only attracted to the female gender, btw.)
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Old 11-22-2016, 02:43 PM
 
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How did you keep yourself from falling into the friend zone, though? Don't you still need to show her that you're interested in her beyond just friends?

To me, it just feels dishonest trying to be a woman's friend when you want something more than that.
What do you mean by fall into the friendzone? You mean she gets to know you better and then decides she's not attracted to you now that she knows more what you are really like?

If anything, I've had the opposite of that. The women I have been with in these situations liked me more over time.

As far as being dishonest, being attracted to someone doesn't mean you can't get to know them as friends first. If anything, that is in your best interest, as you can get to know her better and then decide if you really like her or not.
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Old 11-22-2016, 02:48 PM
 
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For the most part, men largely ignore me, seem to act as though I am "not there", at social or group functions and similar. (Also, fwiw, I am only attracted to the female gender, btw.)
Ok, I can see that if they are strangers and you are shy.

What about friends? How many friends (or acquaintances that you socialize with) do you have?
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Old 11-22-2016, 02:56 PM
 
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Have you ever been tested for the autism spectrum? More than likely, this is the issue.
Haven't been tested for autism. According to my dr., the inability of me to gauge and accurately interpret non-verbal communication and body language is a result of the same injury that resulted in my physical disability.
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Old 11-22-2016, 03:00 PM
 
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Ok, I can see that if they are strangers and you are shy.

What about friends? How many friends (or acquaintances that you socialize with) do you have?
Currently have one local friend, although he is not in the same age range as me. I used to have a lot of friends where I used to live before college, but that was before the age of Facebook and social media, and so I lost touch with them. I did attempt to reconnect with them over Facebook a few years ago, but the effort was unfortunately unsuccessful, as they had pretty much moved on from the time we had been friends for, and now had their own families and spouses, etc.
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Old 11-22-2016, 03:00 PM
 
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Haven't been tested for autism. According to my dr., the inability of me to gauge and accurately interpret non-verbal communication and body language is a result of the same injury that resulted in my physical disability.
It sounds as if you have the same issues as someone with Asperger's would have, assuming you have the same issues around verbal cues also. If so, it makes sense that you are struggling in the social realm. Not being able to pick up social cues is a huge disadvantage.

Maybe you can find a behavioral therapist who specializes in this who could help you in this area.
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Old 11-22-2016, 03:05 PM
 
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How did you keep yourself from falling into the friend zone, though? Don't you still need to show her that you're interested in her beyond just friends?

To me, it just feels dishonest trying to be a woman's friend when you want something more than that.
The whole premise if this thread is the OP approaching women, complete strangers, with the intent and even expectation of something from them. You don't lead with romantic intentions with someone you've never even spoken to. I think friendly is also being confused with the (bogus) friend zone. Ideally you would approach and be friendly with someone you have never met, not lead off with trying to get a date.

Those first interactions would the help you determine if there is a connection worth pursuing. I think of the guy who asked me out in the grocery store, the one I don't even know was standing there until he asked if I'd like to get a cup of coffee. Other than the fact I was married, what appeal was there to me to say yes? I hadn't even looked at him when he asked, he knew nothing about me, and vice versa. He hasn't introduced himself, no small talk, nothing. if that's been the OP's approach all along, it's no wonder he's batting 100.
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Old 11-22-2016, 03:36 PM
 
Location: southwestern PA
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The whole premise if this thread is the OP approaching women, complete strangers, with the intent and even expectation of something from them. You don't lead with romantic intentions with someone you've never even spoken to. I think friendly is also being confused with the (bogus) friend zone. Ideally you would approach and be friendly with someone you have never met, not lead off with trying to get a date.
Exactly!
I don't understand why several are failing to get that....
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Old 11-22-2016, 03:47 PM
 
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Not only that, but apparently labeling these women as "not nice" because they don't automatically respond to him the way he would like them to.
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