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I feel like I will never be able to find that"one" person who could understand me, we could share common interests, have fun together, we could share love with each other, have deep emotional connection, like we would be made for each other.. I haven't met that person I could think "wow he's the one I would like to spend my life with"
I feel like I will never be able to find that"one" person who could understand me, we could share common interests, have fun together, we could share love with each other, have deep emotional connection, like we would be made for each other.. I haven't met that person I could think "wow he's the one I would like to spend my life with"
We used to have a regular poster here who was originally from Russia, but has lived in the US for a long time. He said that women in Russia don't expect everything you've outlined. He said most hope to find a decent guy who treats them decently. Someone they can enjoy conversations with and share a household and a life with. They're not looking for a soul mate, and don't expect fireworks, and the heavens parting to reveal a choir of angels singing. They're just looking for a good, steady guy.
I thought that was a very insightful post he made. For some reason, the relationship/marriage mythology in this country is very different. The search for a partner is too often heavily burdened with too many expectations.
I feel like I will never be able to find that"one" person who could understand me, we could share common interests, have fun together, we could share love with each other, have deep emotional connection, like we would be made for each other.. I haven't met that person I could think "wow he's the one I would like to spend my life with"
And you won't.
Those things usually do not happen all at once, like checking things off your list.
You grow into all that.
We used to have a regular poster here who was originally from Russia, but has lived in the US for a long time. He said that women in Russia don't expect everything you've outlined. He said most hope to find a decent guy who treats them decently. Someone they can enjoy conversations with and share a household and a life with. They're not looking for a soul mate, and don't expect fireworks, and the heavens parting to reveal a choir of angels singing. They're just looking for a good, steady guy.
I thought that was a very insightful post he made. For some reason, the relationship/marriage mythology in this country is very different. The search for a partner is too often heavily burdened with too many expectations.
To me, that sounds like a roommate. Someone I collect half the rent and utilities from and we may part ways to never speak again when the lease is up. As great as that sounds, that doesn't sound romantic to me. It doesn't get me excited to see them or want to be with them. That arrangement just makes my bill paying a lot easier. There's a reason why people do move away from roommates and attempt to incorporate an emotional bond with one person.
It could be that I'm just mentally past the roommate stage. I lived with my first girlfriend and had daily sleepovers with others, but I've never experienced the roommate lifestyle. I've always been a live with my girlfriend/wife or live alone kind of guy.
I don't expect fireworks by any means, but what I do expect is more than a "help wanted" ad.
I feel like I will never be able to find that"one" person who could understand me, we could share common interests, have fun together, we could share love with each other, have deep emotional connection, like we would be made for each other.. I haven't met that person I could think "wow he's the one I would like to spend my life with"
When it comes to relationships, I think most people don't actually get what they involve. Like, people think that marriage is just people who stare into each other's eyes for hours or read chain emails about some 90-year-olds who are totally in love. It's not that it can't happen, but those are the minority of cases. Most people do care about their spouses, don't misunderstand me, but it's also mixed with a lot if irritation at them, too, and sometimes is outright hostility or coldness. I also don't think there's a lot of "deep connection" between like 90% of couples, although I know everyone in a relationship is going to get all angry that I said that. I think it's really sad how so many people in America are divorced because they rushed into a relationship or had an unrealistic view of it or frankly didn't ever know the person they were in a relationship with or whatever.
We used to have a regular poster here who was originally from Russia, but has lived in the US for a long time. He said that women in Russia don't expect everything you've outlined. He said most hope to find a decent guy who treats them decently. Someone they can enjoy conversations with and share a household and a life with. They're not looking for a soul mate, and don't expect fireworks, and the heavens parting to reveal a choir of angels singing. They're just looking for a good, steady guy.
I thought that was a very insightful post he made. For some reason, the relationship/marriage mythology in this country is very different. The search for a partner is too often heavily burdened with too many expectations.
This 100% I wished it were possible to find the partner of your dreams but the reality is that no person is completely compatible with the next. People are all different and have their own way of thinking. Not to mention your partner will never be an extension of due to how at any moment they can leave you for any reason and not have to explain themselves. This is why we as people cannot give our all to another human being because you will only be hurting yourself in the end, nothing lasts forever and you could only hold on to the memory until it fades away.
I feel like I will never be able to find that"one" person who could understand me, we could share common interests, have fun together, we could share love with each other, have deep emotional connection, like we would be made for each other.. I haven't met that person I could think "wow he's the one I would like to spend my life with"
I am lucky in love enough that I have found "the one" with all the things you listed more than once in my life. I truly believe that there's the one for everyone if you search long enough. Don't ever settle for less. Also, I always try to improve myself to be the type of person I want to have in my life. Normally, you attract the same type of person you are.
I feel like I will never be able to find that"one" person who could understand me, we could share common interests, have fun together, we could share love with each other, have deep emotional connection, like we would be made for each other.. I haven't met that person I could think "wow he's the one I would like to spend my life with"
Yes, I feel that way too.
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I haven't met that person I could think "wow he's the one I would like to spend my life with"
