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For the people that say they've seen the same types of people everywhere,sure you might see that. But usually there's some kind of majority that's prevalent.
Its all about your environment..if you want to survive up North, you need to be fiesty to get the respect that you deserve by both other women and men. Down South..because its sooo laid back and charm is everything..as a woman, in order to gain the respect you want..you need to follow suite. Its just being a product of your environment.
Its all about your environment..if you want to survive up North, you need to be fiesty to get the respect that you deserve by both other women and men. Down South..because its sooo laid back and charm is everything..as a woman, in order to gain the respect you want..you need to follow suite. Its just being a product of your environment.
I don't think Northern women have cornered the market on fiesty. Southern girls have long taken off the white gloves. I keep seeing the word "charm" used in relation to Southern women. I don't think we own that adjective either. I think you're right that environment plays a huge role, and agree completely that respect is perhaps earned differently in each locale.
I think way too much thought has been put into a Southern woman's quote/unquote charm. I don't use charm to get respect. I treat people with the same respect that I expect in return.
Manners are a part of us. It's an automatic response. It's a part of who you are. I don't have a motive or ambition connected with it.
In a recent trip to NYC my teenage daughter was appalled at what she considered to be blatant rudeness there. See, I reared her to understand that if she makes eye contact with someone, she should smile, greet them, and acknowledge their humanity. The motive there is not to garner respect for herself, but to respect her fellow human beings. You never know when someone needs something as simple as friendly contact to get them through another day.
I then had to explain to her that in NYC people have a different culture
than we do; that their intent is probably not to be rude at all; that with so many people living in one city, it's unlikely that they will ever meet again. I wish that people in the North would give us the same benefit of doubt when they travel south. Please assume that if a behavior seems odd to you, it's almost always not meant to be rude and/or hurtful.
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Originally Posted by TrishP7
Its all about your environment..if you want to survive up North, you need to be fiesty to get the respect that you deserve by both other women and men. Down South..because its sooo laid back and charm is everything..as a woman, in order to gain the respect you want..you need to follow suite. Its just being a product of your environment.
Depends on where in the "north" you're talking about. The relatively laid-back quasi-liberal environment of the Twin Cities, for example, is VERY different from the fast pace of the east coast. Feisty ain't gonna impress people there.
So, is your lady imported, Chowhound? But then she'll have even more annoying accent (based on experience).
So I guess you're in a grey area sierra since you're out west
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