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I think I would feel the same as you. I know a lot of people would prefer to live together before getting engaged, but not me. Honestly, I'd rather not live together until after the wedding. Of course, my feelings could be due to the fact that my parents have always lived together but never got married and my mom has always resented my father for it, so it's not a situation that I would want to put myself in.
Yes. I just feel safe to get engaged first. For now, I really don't know how to talk to him again about it.
Personally I'd ALWAYS live with someone first before I got engaged as you will find out a HECK of a lot about each other just by living together
Are you a guy? Maybe a man and a woman have a different opinion about it. This is exactly what he said "find how's things going by living together"....
He said the divorce rate is high nowadays. I mean w*f is it. I don' care about other's divorce rate!!!
Any suggestion about next step, how should I talk to him?
Are you a guy? Maybe a man and a woman have a different opinion about it. This is exactly what he said "find how's things going by living together"....
He said the divorce rate is high nowadays. I mean w*f is it. I don' care about other's divorce rate!!!
I'm a woman, and I wouldn't get married without living together first.
I think you're going down the wrong road by making this a "man vs. woman" thing, rather than a "you and your partner" thing.
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Any suggestion about next step, how should I talk to him?
How about something like "I know that you want to move in together, but I don't want to do it without being engaged first"?
There are no "magic words" for this. It's just back and forth communication, and seeing if you can come to an agreement that you both can live with.
I really don't know how to talk to him again. I am not good at bringing this things up....I don't think woman should bring it up, right?
Unless your partner has a knack for mind-reading, you're going to have to bring your feelings up if you want him to know about them.
Yup, some things are hard to bring up. But, honestly, if everyone on the internet told you that you *should* be engaged before living together, would that help your situation any?
Ok. Thanks, we just talked. Thank you for all the encouragement. I brought it up.
He wants a trial before marriage too see if we are comfortable with each other ....and he asked if I am upset about this.
I told him I just wanted to know how he's thinking about it.
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I really don't know how to talk to him again. I am not good at bringing this things up....I don't think woman should bring it up, right?
