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Other things being equal (and they never are), I think some women find intelligence sexy. Some women may really like street smarts, some may like ingenuity, and some may like book smarts. Ingenuity and street smarts don't seem to have many haters, but some people really are anti-anything-close-to-intellectualism, so book smarts can be a negative, too.
Do you place a big premium on smarts? Do you care whether he has a degree?
I've heard a lot of women say they like smart men, but the question is: to what extent? Would it be overkill if the guy reads voraciously? If he enjoys nerding out on Jeopardy and documentaries? If he likes hitting up museums while you're both on vacation?
Ladies, where do you draw the line -- if at all? How intellectually curious would you want him to be?
"Sexy"? No. Attractive, definitely. It's at the top of the list of "must have" criteria for me. I have to be able to have a good conversation or five with someone, you know? And btw, "Jeopardy" isn't a measure of intelligence. It's a measure of familiarity with pop culture and history, mostly.
IDK about you, OP, but visiting museums while travelling (and while staying home!), and watching documentaries is normal where I come from.
And yes, I would hope that a guy would read voraciously, rather than veg out in front of the TV. Or that he'd have fascinating hobbies on relatively obscure topics. Or not. Gardening to relax, and exploring global cuisines in the kitchen are good, too.
Just like for men, women have different priorities and ideals. Not all women like the same thing. Thank goodness for that, or there would be a lot more heterosexual men unable to find a mate (same in reverse for women).
My husband is not IQ-test smart. He's not degreed, and he never reads more than news articles and only sometimes likes museums. I'm a PhD who reads voraciously, enjoys some element of "culture" and is about 40 pt higher than him on "IQ" tests. We've been together for more than 22 years and have 3 kids together. I find him sexy because of his wit/sense of humor, his kindness and caring, and his motivation to do things and do them well. I don't know what he sees in me. In the past, I've dated men with more education and who are more "book smart." There is a lot more to a match than just intelligence. I don't think I'd be happy with someone I thought was "stupid," but I don't need someone who is super high on the intelligence scale to make me happy.
Intelligence and a good sense of humor are a must.
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