My boyfriend works 2 full time jobs and our sex life is suffering (dating, man)

[darkskies44]

Before the first year of us dating, we would have sex on average like 4-5 times week. He wanted it, it was great. He was a lot happier in my opinion and the relationship was even in terms of effort. Now we only do it once, maybe twice a week if I'm lucky and I always have to initiate.

So sometime in September my boyfriend started working a second job, 5 days a week, from his desktop computer from 11pm - 2am. He also works a regular 8-5 Monday through Friday. The sleep deprivation got really bad a few weeks ago and he cut the night job from 11pm - 1am instead, although I'm not sure how much that helps. His therapist told him to quit and he didn't listen because he was getting snappy at me and his family as a result of his lack of sleep. Also as a result of this, I believe our sex life is suffering. For the past few months, I initiate 90% of the time. He usually turns me down every time except on like Saturday nights. It's honestly really getting to me.

When I brought it up today after getting rejected again, he got upset and told me that I have to make it work. He told me it's my job that gets in the way. I only work 3 days a week, one job, 6pm - 11pm because I'm a student. I also come over his house after work like 4-5 days a week because his house is on the way home from mine. I also agreed to stop going out much on the weekends to help him save money and offer to pay half every time we go out. He rarely comes to my house and I try to be understanding because he's tired a lot but now I'm compromising on my basic needs.

[GoCUBS1]

He's tired! Maybe you need a different sex schedule. What about his lunch hour?

[ShiverMeTimber]

2 sides to every story.

[darkskies44]

Originally Posted by GoCUBS1

He's tired! Maybe you need a different sex schedule. What about his lunch hour?

He often doesn't take lunch, and we live about ~40 mins away from each other at the moment.

[StarfoxGod]

Originally Posted by darkskies44

He often doesn't take lunch, and we live about ~40 mins away from each other at the moment.

Well then you need to be clear that you need the D and work it out so it could at least be 4-5 times a week. Damn that's low as it is lol once a day should be minimum unless there's an important event or emergency. Your man needs to look for a higher paying job so he doesn't have to slave.

[Mikala43]

First, he doesn't work 2 full-time jobs, he works a full-time and a part-time job.

Second, you are being kinda selfish. You could be supportive and understanding or continue only wanting what's in it for you.

If you are ever interested in a healthy long term relationship then you are going to have to grow up a little.

[darkskies44]

Originally Posted by Mikala43

First, he doesn't work 2 full-time jobs, he works a full-time and a part-time job.

Second, you are being kinda selfish. You could be supportive and understanding or continue only wanting what's in it for you.

If you are ever interested in a healthy long term relationship then you are going to have to grow up a little.

There's huge a difference between complaining about not being able to watch a movie when you want to and not having your needs met to a point of dissatisfaction within the relationship.

[ShiverMeTimber]

Try giving him a sponatnous BJ.

[darkskies44]

Originally Posted by ShiverMeTimber

Try giving him a sponatnous BJ.

That worked once, but then he turned me down the few times after that.

[Mikala43]

Originally Posted by darkskies44

There's huge a difference between complaining about not being able to watch a movie when you want to and not having your needs met to a point of dissatisfaction within the relationship.

Well, it's obvious you need to break up with him.