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Yes, it's his choice but why would you choose to make yourself less attractive to the person who needs to be attracted to you?
To feel comfortable in your own skin? I've had ex boyfriends ask me to wear things that I would feel very uncomfortable in. Nope. Not going to wear it. Not for all the tea in China.
My husband tells me that he prefers me without makeup, but I still continue to wear makeup because I simply feel better and more "put together" about how I look with with a little makeup. He sports a mustache, which I am not crazy about. At all. I've teased him about it and he knows that I think he'd look better without it, but it is something he is attached to, apparently, and I guess he would not feel like himself without it. It seems to be growing longer these days too. It makes him look mean. He smiled a very satisfied smile when I told him that. **sigh** He still makes my heart go thump-thump and his kisses are sweet and tender so it's all good.
"I yam what I yam and that's all what I yam." ― Popeye
To feel comfortable in your own skin? I've had ex boyfriends ask me to wear things that I would feel very uncomfortable in. Nope. Not going to wear it. Not for all the tea in China.
My husband tells me that he prefers me without makeup, but I still continue to wear makeup because I simply feel better and more "put together" about how I look with with a little makeup. He sports a mustache, which I am not crazy about. At all. I've teased him about it and he knows that I think he'd look better without it, but it is something he is attached to, apparently, and I guess he would not feel like himself without it. It seems to be growing longer these days too. It makes him look mean. He smiled a very satisfied smile when I told him that. **sigh** He still makes my heart go thump-thump and his kisses are sweet and tender so it's all good.
"I yam what I yam and that's all what I yam." ― Popeye
I think it's different if you're asking someone to change their appearance to something that they had not already been doing. But if they were already looking the way you prefer at the time that you met them and fell for them, and then all of a sudden they want to change their look...I think that's a problem. What if they decide it's more comfortable for them to gain some weight or stop showering or brushing their teeth as often as they used to? Is that ok too?
No, of course you shouldn't lie. If it turns out it looks great, you say so. If it turns out as douchey as you expect, you don't say anything. He knows how you feel about the haircut. If he says "how does it look?" You can say "not as bad as I thought it might" if it's true, or something about whatever else you find attractive about him (eyes, whatever). And you don't tell him what to do with his hair, but if he asks of course you can offer your opinion.
I think it's different if you're asking someone to change their appearance to something that they had not already been doing. But if they were already looking the way you prefer at the time that you met them and fell for them, and then all of a sudden they want to change their look...I think that's a problem. What if they decide it's more comfortable for them to gain some weight or stop showering or brushing their teeth as often as they used to? Is that ok too?
I see your point but who wants to wear the same hairstyle year after year?
I still see people with mullets and rat tails, and I've wondered what they tell themselves. Now I think I might understand. It's how their hair was when they met their SO. LOL.
I see your point but who wants to wear the same hairstyle year after year?
I still see people with mullets and rat tails, and I've wondered what they tell themselves. Now I think I might understand. It's how their hair was when they met their SO. LOL.
LOL, just to clarify, I'm not saying that no one should EVER change their look or that it's a problem if looks change due to no fault of their own. I'm just saying that I personally don't think someone should intentionally change their look to something they know their partner doesn't like.
LOL, just to clarify, I'm not saying that no one should EVER change their look or that it's a problem if looks change due to no fault of their own. I'm just saying that I personally don't think someone should intentionally change their look to something they know their partner doesn't like.
Yes, I do see what you are saying and it's a valid point. I guess it depends on how strongly they feel about it despite the opposition. Maybe the OP's bf just really had his heart set on this haircut and wants to try it out.
The same way that I really want to wear makeup despite my husband telling me that he doesn't like makeup. He won't kiss me if I am wearing lipstick, or even a little gloss. But I still wear it almost every day.
My ex husband dyed his hair platinum blonde once. This was 20 years ago when Eminem was big... He looked like a total moron. He has dark hair and by day day 2 his roots were already showing. It was embarrassing to be seen in public with him because it looked so bad. Seriously people would stare. The bad dye job coupled with a very unfortunate haircut really did detract from his overall appearance. A person can wear their hair any way they want to. If he likes it that's all that really matters. If he specifically asks you I would be honest though and just let him know you liked his old haircut better.
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