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Yesterday was my last day before I had to work a long ****ty week out of town in the middle of nowhere. All I wanted was to relax. I woke up happy and then she just dragged me down and ruined my day. Is that not selfish as hell of her?
When she does this ****, it makes me go blind with anger. But even when I get to the point of punching holes in the wall and telling her what a ****ing ***** she is being, she still won't let up. Then she cries and turns it around on me, trying to make me look like the dick, saying that I take it too personally and I won't listen to and understand her. What's there to listen to or understand? It's all ****ing irrational.
It makes me so mad that she can see the effect her actions are having on me, every time, but she still pulls this **** like twice a month.?
You're the one with the biggest issues. (Backing away, slowly) You two aren't compatible. You have a porn habit (why, when you have a gf? Who needs porn?), she feels sidelined, knowing you do porn searches. This is very common in couples where the guy is into porn; it happens in couples where the woman has no body-image issues at all.
Your gf could use some counseling to readjust her body image to her new self, and to recover her self-esteem. But you, sir, need major anger management training, not to mention a good dose of empathy.
And btw, you're both taking everything way too personally. And stop punching holes in the wall. What's your landlord going to say? You're scaring the hell out of her. Get back in your cage.
Yesterday was my last day before I had to work a long ****ty week out of town in the middle of nowhere. All I wanted was to relax. I woke up happy and then she just dragged me down and ruined my day. Is that not selfish as hell of her?
So you have to work out of town in some Podunk place. It's not the end of the world, it's just a week. Why does that anger you so much? You have a very serious inability to roll with life's punches, even the minor ones. That is not normal.
Get help in dealing with your issues, or you may be dead by 30. This is no way to go through life.
You're the one with the biggest issues. (Backing away, slowly) You two aren't compatible. You have a porn habit (why, when you have a gf? Who needs porn?), she feels sidelined, knowing you do porn searches. This is very common in couples where the guy is into porn; it happens in couples where the woman has no body-image issues at all.
Your gf could use some counseling to readjust her body image to her new self, and to recover her self-esteem. But you, sir, need major anger management training, not to mention a good dose of empathy.
And btw, you're both taking everything way too personally. And stop punching holes in the wall. What's your landlord going to say? You're scaring the hell out of her. Get back in your cage.
It's not like I am choosing porn over sex with her. The night before we had sex for awhile but she was on her period, got a bad cramp, and I stopped. Later that night after she went to bed I jerked off to some porn. It's normal.
I'm going to fix the holes in the walls. I'd never hit her or anything. She just drives me crazy to the point where I do things when I never thought I'd be "that guy".
It's not like I am choosing porn over sex with her. The night before we had sex for awhile but she was on her period, got a bad cramp, and I stopped. Later that night after she went to bed I jerked off to some porn. It's normal.
I'm going to fix the holes in the walls. I'd never hit her or anything. She just drives me crazy to the point where I do things when I never thought I'd be "that guy".
Maybe I should have provided more detail about her part in this. She will say things like "I bet you think she's way hotter" or "I bet you'd rather **** her". Is that not abusive in it's own right? She always says she will stop but I know she never will. It's like once every other week she does this and it ruins my whole day. How the **** am I supposed to deal with someone trying to tell me how I feel? It's like she wants me to baby and coddle her but I just can't. I usually just end up saying whatever ****ty thing she wants me to say out of anger.
Maybe I should have provided more detail about her part in this. She will say things like "I bet you think she's way hotter" or "I bet you'd rather **** her". Is that not abusive in it's own right? She always says she will stop but I know she never will. It's like once every other week she does this and it ruins my whole day. How the **** am I supposed to deal with someone trying to tell me how I feel? It's like she wants me to baby and coddle her but I just can't. I usually just end up saying whatever ****ty thing she wants me to say out of anger.
Dude, part of being able to function in a relationship is to know what your SO's triggers are, and not trigger them. Everyone has their own sore spots, and someone who cares will not try to upset someone that they're supposed to care about. Your girlfriend is a pretty extreme case because of her past, but if you look at telling her that you think she's beautiful and that she has nothing to worry about as babying and coddling here, then you're obviously not a person she needs in her life.
I think we are being riled up by this new poster. I am always suspicious of "stories" where the author insists on assigning a name to the other someone in the story, but then the author never again refers to the person by that name. It's someone writing fiction (poorly). Just a little tip for you guys wondering whether to respond to a brand new poster.
I don't even know if I can see one at this point, to be honest. I feel like I need to put my foot down once and for all. If only she would put in the effort to get over her dumb bull**** on her own and stop dragging me into it, I could see myself spending my life with her, probably. She is a liar as well because every time she says she will stop, but a couple weeks later, there she goes again with the same old ****. She only tells me what I want to hear because she's afraid to lose me.
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