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If I was dating a man for over a month...and sleeping with him....yeah, I think you have an obligation to disclose the fact you're sleeping with others.
But what do I know? I've been married for a long time. I suspect times have changed. If it were me, I wouldn't sleep with a guy unless I knew I'd be his only lover. I'd be too attached after we had sex....I guess it's an old-fashioned woman thing. I'd have this talk up front before we had sex. If he wanted sex with others, no big deal...we could still be friends and go out.
I don't think I'd be sleeping with a man for a month solid without knowing first that we were exclusive (which can only happen by us being upfront about that and making the agreement), so for me, this works the opposite way.
Now, he might be sleeping with...whomever, and I wouldn't know, if we hadn't had the exclusivity talk yet, but that's him. Until that point, it's not up to me to decide he shouldn't sleep with someone else, OR for me to assume exclusivity because we have slept together.
But for me personally...if I'm getting in there, I'm knowing first that he's not getting anywhere else.
I don't think I'd be sleeping with a man for a month solid without knowing first that we were exclusive (which can only happen by us being upfront about that and making the agreement), so for me, this works the opposite way.
Now, he might be sleeping with...whomever, and I wouldn't know, if we hadn't had the exclusivity talk yet, but that's him. Until that point, it's not up to me to decide he shouldn't sleep with someone else, OR for me to assume exclusivity because we have slept together.
But for me personally...if I'm getting in there, I'm knowing first that he's not getting anywhere else.
Pretty simple.
I agree. I guess some people are ok with having sex with someone they're in a non-serious relationship with. Even so, I would think after a month, you'd have invested enough into the relationship that it's time to talk about exclusivity to avoid ruining it.
I agree. I guess some people are ok with having sex with someone they're in a non-serious relationship with. Even so, I would think after a month, you'd have invested enough into the relationship that it's time to talk about exclusivity to avoid ruining it.
The thing is, in that month period we've seen each other like 4 times. The last two times we spent weekends together, cuddling and doing couple-y things. He's going to be gone for a month (work) and I don't know if it's the right time to approach the subject.
Are you saying you want to be able to sleep with other guys while this guy is working out of town but don't know how to bring it up???
that's what it's sounding like to me.
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