Originally Posted by WashingtonWizards
So this is more about getting it off my chest, then needing real input. I know what the right thing is, but that doesn't make it easier. So here goes...(sorry for spelling and grammatical errors)
Backstory: My wife and I have known each-other and each-others families since we were young (like 6 & 7/yo). We really didn't like eachother at all (we'd argue a lot), just normal kid stuff.. then when we both got to the age of 14-15 we developed an attraction. And around the age of 17/18 we started dating, we dated for a little over 2 years and got married, I had just turned 20 and she was 19. No she was not pregnant, nor did I consider it a "immature act of kids".. I would say we are fairly mature for our age, I started a business when I was 18 and continue to run it to this day. We got pregnant with our first kid about 8 months into our marriage (my wife was almost 20), shortly after (about a year) we bought our first home, 2 years later we got pregnant again (planned) and it was our boy.. Both kids I love to death.
Both my wife and I come from larger families (she has 5 siblings and I have 4). She has a older brother and sister, and a younger brother and sister. Her younger sister is 10 years younger. Fast forward to around 2 years ago, My wife is 26 and I'm 26, her younger sister is 16 and really starting to develop, and I took note of that.. also around the same time her and my wife started hanging out more (Probably just because of the freedom of being 16 and able to drive, and as her sister got older, her and my wife could share more things in common). With her spending more time at our house and around we (the younger sister and I) developed more of a relationship...more of a friend relationship then a "little sister" relationship. And I have to be honest, I was/am really attracted to her. (Disclaimer.. in the state I live in 16 is the legal age of consent. AND I never tried anything or got pictures...but yeah, I know its still a little weird).
During the course of the next 2 years, we started chatting online and texting ect.. nothing real serious..just daily stuff, how our jobs were going.. what online games we were playing, tv shows we were watching.. etc. etc..
She comes over on the weekends to watch sports with the wife and I, or sometimes (rarely) just her and I will watch a TV show together.. we've been going through Daredevil, and a lot of the time (even when the wife is there) we'll be on the same couch together (all 3 of use) under a blanket.. anyways..its stupid I know.. but I don't want to leave out details.
Now bring us up to current date. "THIS" has been going on for around 2 years now, and I just need it to stop. I will be 100% honest and say that "I want more".. more of a relationship..physical and otherwise.
Focus on my wife for a second, this is also a weird thing that...is there. (maybe weird?) So first thought when you read all of this is "that cheating bastard"..and on one level I agree with you.. But to make things harder for me.. My wife (thinks) she's bisexual.. no she's never been with another woman...but she fantasizes about them sometimes (and tells me, we are pretty open about sexual stuff) and along with these many discussions she has mentioned Mod cut.).
So all of that brings me down to this.. I feel like I can't really talk to anyone about it, we all share a lot of the same friends, and I don't really trust any of my guy friends for good advice and to not tell anyone. And normally I would talk to my wife about stuff like this.. but to be honest I dont' want her weirded out by it all.. an I feel a little embarrassed. My wife and her sister have almost identical bodies (size, build, hair, hair color...they even look the same in the face)...but for whatever reason my wife doesn't think her sister is super attractive..and so I feel a little ashamed I am attracted to her.
And I dont' even know why I'm attracted to her, my sex life with my wife is great, 3-4 times a week, she is smoking hot, we do get kinky in the bedroom, its not like I'm "stifled".. My wife and I have a good "friend" relationship, we share a lot in common and can joke around and stuff...
But all that being said, when I'm with her sister...I get this "buzz" this foggy headed buzz.. like a high almost.. And I like it. :I
Conclusion: Most of you would say to just break it off.. which I would like to, but we are in close contact with my wifes family, we go to the same church (I know I'm a sinner) and her and my wife are friends...all of that combined..and I see her sister like 2-3 times a week.
And I can't really move, with my business where its at, if we moved I would be throwing it all away...
So at this point, I'm trying to ignore her more and more..and slowly try to push my wife in another direction (with friends and activities etc..)... But its slow.. and frustrating.
So yeah.. thats everything. (I think)
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