Not Interested In Pictures. Why?

[geminigirl7]

Simple, she probably just doesn't like the way she looks in pictures. I hate taking pictures. I think I look decent in person but I'm not photogenic so I avoid getting my picture taken at all costs. If someone asks to take my picture and I say no it really annoys me when they get persistent.

Leave her alone and when the baby is born feel free to take as many pictures of her as you like. It's obvious your heart is in the right place but your wife isn't into it so let it go.

[Londoncowboy30]

She's not photogenic, she doesn't want to broadcast herself or her pregnancy to the world, knackered......

To many reasons mate.

Congratulations in advanced for your impending first kid

[jimrich]

[quote=Des-Lab;46615812]
So anyway my question is this.
Why is the lady so indifferent-and even avers to taking baby pictures and preps?
She is ASHAMED! She was given toxic shame (google it) in the past and now lives with shame and self contempt so, being photoed triggers her deep and painful or enraging feelings of SHAME and low self worth.

My woman?
Seems like she could absolutely care less about all of this. Perhaps she is even actually against the idea. She hasn't been hostile towards it, but very passive-aggressive in doing everything she can to avoid it.
She is suffering with toxic shame here.

"Babe: I'd like to take some pictures of you"

"Oh well I have to do laundry/make dinner/go to the store/take a nap", ad nauseum.

These are all strategies to lower the blistering PAIN that toxic shame produces in her.

And so I don't. It's obvious she's not interested. So I just give up.

When I do bring out the camera anyway, she's quite visibly annoyed.
That's Shame and Self Contempt at work!

She doesn't seem to get this.

She seems to have all the other bases lined up: crib, clothes, rocking chair, baby creams, etc with military precision.

But immortalizing and documenting the event?

Shows absolutely no interest whatsoever.
She's afraid!

Is there a reason for that?
Yes, it's called TOXIC SHAME.

You know anyone else who has no desire to record or remember their lives and the important events?
Yes and she definitely suffers from Shame and bad self worth!

It's obvious she's not interested. I get that.

The purpose of this post is to try and understand WHY she's not interested.

Any ideas?
Google: Toxic Shame and/or Self Esteem to understand what is EATING her - plus how to FIX her problem and get back the self worth and respect that were taken from her during her childhood.

[mco65]

RESPECT her wishes.. PERIOD..

[Metaphysique]

Originally Posted by Des-Lab

The purpose of this post is to try and understand WHY she's not interested.

Because she's not? Maternity pictures, while nice, weren't a thing for me, and I am a photographer. There were times I thought about it during my last pregnancy, but it wasn't a must-have.

Originally Posted by Liberty2011

Maybe she's self-conscious about weight gain and appearance?

Not uncommon. I know a lot of women who just weren't into such photos because they weren't comfortable with the physical changes of pregnancy.

I'd drop the issue. She's not interested and that's it.

[Metaphysique]

Originally Posted by sheerbliss

That, sir, means there's a lot more supply than demand for baby bump photos.

Maternity photos is a pretty big component of family portrait businesses (not studios like Olan Mills or Picture People). They often come in "first year" packages that include maternity, birth and another session or two during the first year. And if done by a professional they can be pretty pricey. They have always been an "in" thing in the dozens of pregnancy/parenting/photography forums I've been active in. They are also typically done in the beginning of the third trimester (28-32w), not a few weeks before the due date.