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My husband and I often go a number of hours if we're away visiting family or old friends. We touch base to let each other know we arrived safely, etc. but we're not big on staying in touch more than once a day or so.
I have been known to go out of my way to check on the wellbeing of former boyfriends, while we still were dating. In retrospect, it was a waste of time and energy.
My husband and I often go a number of hours if we're away visiting family or old friends. We touch base to let each other know we arrived safely, etc. but we're not big on staying in touch more than once a day or so.
I have been known to go out of my way to check on the wellbeing of former boyfriends, while we still were dating. In retrospect, it was a waste of time and energy.
At least you keep in touch once a day, but nothing from my ex wife... even during holidays.
Soooo. To clarify, she's not an ex, she IS. Separation still means married. You never wanted to speak to her again. Blah blah blah. You keep winding back up with her, keep separating. You want her to leave you alone and let you move on with your life, but..... You become so upset that you have to vent to an online forum, because she didn't wish you a Merry Christmas. If I recall correctly, weren't you just with her last week, and you were upset because blah blah blah, i want her out of my life, yet i made things serious again, then uncomfortable, so she wanted out again, SO NOW YOU WON'T STOP CONTACTING HER.
That's a very shortened version, but that's the gist.
Why? Why do you continue to actively seek other partners, while married, while still diddling with wife, while posting on the dating advertisement board recently so probably other sites too, yet EXPECT, WANT, CRAVE, to receive attention from the wife you're supposedly running away from?
With that, you continue to poke at her, until she retaliates, then you get confused and act helpless and act like you have no idea why she's going crazy on you.
Just leave her alone. I'm beginning to see why that pallet of crazy chips is turning into isle 15.
Guess I'm guilty of partially ghosting a time or two in my life. My first ex-wife would probably chalk it up to me being, as she said it, "a self-centered, egotistical, arrogant bastard". Can't say I could find an arguing point in her thinking, I am somewhat notoriously hard to live with.
Back to the topic though. Ghosting is actually quite a cruel thing to do to a significant other, as in being completely out of contact beyond the time when you could reasonably be expected to be back home, or at least out with a decent excuse. These days a simple text takes only seconds and while not solving the problem, it at least gives some comfort to those who might care about you.
You are right Raena but I'm gonna be more selfish and focus on my own happiness regardless how it hurts this person.
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Originally Posted by MigratingCoconut
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Soooo. To clarify, she's not an ex, she IS. Separation still means married. You never wanted to speak to her again. Blah blah blah. You keep winding back up with her, keep separating. You want her to leave you alone and let you move on with your life, but..... You become so upset that you have to vent to an online forum, because she didn't wish you a Merry Christmas. If I recall correctly, weren't you just with her last week, and you were upset because blah blah blah, i want her out of my life, yet i made things serious again, then uncomfortable, so she wanted out again, SO NOW YOU WON'T STOP CONTACTING HER.
That's a very shortened version, but that's the gist.
Why? Why do you continue to actively seek other partners, while married, while still diddling with wife, while posting on the dating advertisement board recently so probably other sites too, yet EXPECT, WANT, CRAVE, to receive attention from the wife you're supposedly running away from?
With that, you continue to poke at her, until she retaliates, then you get confused and act helpless and act like you have no idea why she's going crazy on you.
Just leave her alone. I'm beginning to see why that pallet of crazy chips is turning into isle 15.
This woman is my wife however she at any moment would create distance between us for weeks to months at a time. Recently she bull****ted about getting engaged with another man however I'm starting to think that she's just playing me with others. This separation has been going on for almost 2 years (on and off due to her), mind you I have not once did this to her. This is always happening to me when she is upset, and or busy doing her where she will take 1-2 days without a single text or hello. I wanted to fix my marriage with her but she refuse counseling and we have been having trust issues for the longest. I'm 99% sure she is ****ing with other men and way before I had sex with 2 other woman (during her absence for 3 months, claiming she was engaged with another man). as to what you said, I had just spoken to her yesterday and we were in contact several times through the day. I told her about this non sense of disappearing and taking space when the best way to solve any issue is to speak about it during an appropriate time. I also told her that I will never sleep with another woman again but you cannot vanish for no reason, communicate with me. I always tell her that it's about us, not just her which is very selfish and problematic for our marriage. To clarify I am not running away from her, she keeps running from me, have you not read my previous posts? since you seem to have some information but it's not accurate.
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Originally Posted by Bazzwell
Guess I'm guilty of partially ghosting a time or two in my life. My first ex-wife would probably chalk it up to me being, as she said it, "a self-centered, egotistical, arrogant bastard". Can't say I could find an arguing point in her thinking, I am somewhat notoriously hard to live with.
Back to the topic though. Ghosting is actually quite a cruel thing to do to a significant other, as in being completely out of contact beyond the time when you could reasonably be expected to be back home, or at least out with a decent excuse. These days a simple text takes only seconds and while not solving the problem, it at least gives some comfort to those who might care about you.
It's very abusive to ghost on someone that is relivant in your life. A simple text would at least allow the person to know there's no issue or that you are not 6 feet under but she doesn't give a **** about me but claims to be in love with me. Yesterday she told me "I love you" several times and in reality she is truly telling me "I love me, myself and I" this is the only person she cares about but I have these dumb asssss feelings for her.
Last edited by StarfoxGod; 12-25-2016 at 10:13 PM..
ghosting can mean either or, but it's when a person just stops contact with you for long periods of time or permanently.
That sucks.
If I say "She's ghosted me." I'll have to clarify what I mean, because I could mean one day, a weekend, or maybe I mean she cut me off completely.
It's just a new, lame way of saying 'ignoring'... Lame.
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