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If you really knew the truth, you'd know that it's pretty insulting to insinuate that someone in a domestic abuse situation does not have common sense.
There have been situations where the abused person DID leave, only to be stalked and murdered. That is why it is important to seek out professional help rather than just listen to people on a message board who may have good intentions but don't really know what exactly should be done.
There are resources out there for people in the OP's situation, and yes those people have expertise.
Nobody is saying not to seek out professional help, you can do that after you leave in the safety of another place. And the op came here for advice, should she have zero replies. She asked the people here, and I'm sure she know we are not professionals. That would be pretty sad if she came here to chat with people about her situation, and nobody cared enough about it to reply. Perhaps there are some people on here who are professional , or know some people who are. If you see a person drowning and you are a good swimmer, do you just sit there and wait for the professionals, or do you try to help.
Nobody is saying not to seek out professional help, you can do that after you leave in the safety of another place. And the op came here for advice, should she have zero replies. She asked the people here, and I'm sure she know we are not professionals. That would be pretty sad if she came here to chat with people about her situation, and nobody cared enough about it to reply. Perhaps there are some people on here who are professional , or know some people who are. If you see a person drowning and you are a good swimmer, do you just sit there and wait for the professionals, or do you try to help.
I'm not going to argue with you. The important thing is for her to seek professional help in her situation, not for people on a message board to argue about who has the best advice.
Definitely seek professional help, and also consider that, depending on details of the childhood abuse at the hands of a family member, home MAY not be the ideal place to go. Try to line up an alternate place to go when you leave.
Agencies that specialize in domestic violence are equipped to help you sort out the steps you need to take to be safe.
Whoa! Sexual abuse at age 6 makes you a super strong magnet for these types of relationships.
I agree with the others. Just get out now and get counseling. People with childhood sexual abuse just repeat the same patterns over and over again if they don't get counseling.
I also think it may be a bad idea to go home to parents.
They will help you find resources in your area. You need to do this today. GMATs are scheduled throughout the year. Your safety should be your top priority.
Op, leave and don't look back. Think of all the women who decided to give their men just 'one more chance' and they were killed. Don't be that person. If you don't get out now that you know who he really is, you have no one to blame but yourself.
Why, in this thread, is she encouraged to leave her husband for drinking and yet the dude with a bipolar wife gets criticized for not wanting to help her through her illness? Something about 'vows' and 'for better or worse' and 'in sickness and health.'
Kind of one sided IMO
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