Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Hello,
I'm sorry to post this on the website area for marriage but just wanted some advice.
My wife is bipolar and also suffers from intense depression. This is killing our relationship and I want to move on.
Currently we live in PA but I am considering moving to my brother's house in Maryland so I can save on rent. I am also fearful that she will come after me in some way if I tell her I'm leaving or that she won't leave our house. I've told the landlord about us and he has ok'd us leaving our rental house. I'm not sure how to do all of this or what to do with all our stuff (much of it she can have) just know I need a change before something bad happens.
Tough love here. Been there with a mentally wife.
If there are no children involved, get as far away from [Mod cut: inappropriate] (her)as you can and if necessary, pull a restraining order on her.
If she hasn't been declared a Vulnerable Adult who can't function on her own, and doesn't have a diagnosed and recognized disability making her unable to be employable, don't worry about different things that likely wont happen just because she's on medication for a mental illness. Who has a caseworker and appointed guardian for depression and bipolar, there aren't enough caseworkers to go around for all the mental illnesses out there.
Does anyone realize how common this is? I would imagine a significant percent of people separating, divorcing, or in a rotten marriage are contemplating whether or not they're mentally ill, and in need of meds. Sheesh, don't go running out the door like your pants are on fire.
If there is never a time when she isn't in the home, call for police assistance if she becomes violent or threatening. Have your titles handy to show what is yours.That's what they're there for, people don't get to just act how ever they want, there are laws to protect you from harm if you're scared.
Or, just pack up what's most important to you while she's out of the house and leave. Call, leave a note, whatever, let her know you've talked to the landlord and she's free to leave as well. File for a divorce. You cant let the "what will she do" consume you, be happy to be free! No joint accounts, take her off of your insurance, take the cars in your name, a judge will decide if you need to divide anything else. Yay, no kids are involved. Make arrangements for the pets, please.
You need legal counsel. FYI however....I knew someone with bipolar disorder and she was able to get SSI (disability). Not at first. She did have to get a lawyer and appeal it before getting it approved. You might want to recommend she try that. It could make a lot of difference in how much you would have to pay towards her support following a divorce. Only thing is, you probably don't want to wait that long. Good luck to both of you.
Hello,
I'm sorry to post this on the website area for marriage but just wanted some advice.
My wife is bipolar and also suffers from intense depression. This is killing our relationship and I want to move on.
Currently we live in PA but I am considering moving to my brother's house in Maryland so I can save on rent. I am also fearful that she will come after me in some way if I tell her I'm leaving or that she won't leave our house. I've told the landlord about us and he has ok'd us leaving our rental house. I'm not sure how to do all of this or what to do with all our stuff (much of it she can have) just know I need a change before something bad happens.
Consult a real attorney who can guide you through the entire legal process properly.
Do not count on internet attorneys who do not know the specfic laws in your area.
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
