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Old 01-04-2017, 02:28 AM
 
Location: The Heart of Dixie
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So here's the situation with me being newly single again. As most of y'all are probably aware, Facebook has this automatic feature that suggests people for you to "friend", usually based on the number of mutual friends you have. Now Facebook friends might be very good friends in real life or they could simply be acquaintances, neighbors, people from the same church, workplace etc. There are a few girls on that list that I wouldn't mind going on a date with. I share mutual friends with and have "single" as their relationship status. I have plenty of people tell me to just go ahead and friend and talk to them, try to hang out etc etc. What is y'alls opinion on that? And what's the best way to go about doing it?

Some of them do have close mutual friends with me, others are just Facebook "friends", and some of these mutual friends are bands or karoke DJs that are popular in my town.

There IS one girl on that list that I HAVE met in real life. We have 5 friends in common, but they all just friended her because they went to high school together and don't know her that well and never hang out with her. I tried to ask her out in person but she wasn't interested. It was one of those situation where I wasn't sure I was going to see her again. She was working at a local casino one day when I was out with some buddies of mine and we struck up a nice conversation when she was checking my ID. She mentioned that she started working there to be with her ex-boyfriend when they they broke up and he also got another job but she's there. So I was like "that means you're single now" and she said yes and I said if that means I could have her number.

She told me she wasn't supposed to give her number out while she was on the clock but asked for my name so she could find me on Facebook later, but she never did. Now I have several friends who work at the casino and they all told me there's no such rule about giving phone numbers out and that people who work there do it all the time, so this girl maybe just wasn't interested and wanted to be nice about it. I haven't seen her at the casino since (she was about to go from greeting people and checking IDs to being a dealer so its very possible she works at night now) but she did pop up on Facebook because of our 5 mutual friends. I'm thinking maybe I came across as too goofy when I first met her and want to send her a friend request. Would I have much to lose? Or if I happen to see her at the casino in the future I can play at her table and mention Facebook? (though this isn't guaranteed since I don't go gambling that much).
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Old 01-04-2017, 02:51 AM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Yeah sure why not.
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Old 01-04-2017, 03:49 AM
 
Location: Manchester, UK
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I'd just send her a friend request. Don't put her on the spot again when she's at work.
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Old 01-05-2017, 09:03 AM
 
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Tell her what you know!

Tell her, "You lied and I'm having none of it even if you are pretty!"

"You could have given me your number but you lied and said you couldn't!!"

"You're a liar!! LIAR! LIAR!"

"LI - AR! LIAR!"

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Old 01-05-2017, 09:27 AM
 
Location: Central TX
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Personally, I'd probably drop it because she already had her chance but some people say persistence pays. I guess you have nothing to lose (well, maybe a little pride).

Good luck!
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Old 01-05-2017, 09:30 AM
 
Location: The Triad
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There IS one girl on that list that I HAVE met in real life.
We have 5 friends in common...
Find her IN REAL LIFE.
Talk to her.
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Old 01-05-2017, 10:34 AM
 
Location: U.S.A.
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Can't say I'm put off by an attractive man sending me a friend request... Having mutual friends (or even having already met IRL) makes me more likely to accept.


Asking for the # was a bit premature - especially while she's working.. Finding out she and her bf broke up isn't exactly your cue to just jump right in there...

I often direct men to my fb when I don't know them well enough to give out my #.
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Old 01-06-2017, 10:52 PM
 
Location: The Heart of Dixie
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Nobody was in earshot when she was working that day.

But for this girl from the casino, if I send her a friend request, should I mention that I remember meeting her once before asking her out on Facebook messenger? Or ask when she's working and visit her there again before asking?
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Old 01-07-2017, 07:41 AM
 
Location: The Triad
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But for this girl from the casino...ask when she's working and visit her there again...
WHATEVER is required to see her in reality.
Get offline and ask her out ... IN PERSON
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Old 01-07-2017, 09:19 AM
 
Location: Richmond VA
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Just send the friend request without comment. See what she does.

Don't mention the casino. She may have other reasons why she's not comfortable socializing at work.
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