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In my previous post, I discussed all the issues i've been having with my husband. We have only been married 8 months. He had sent p*rn scenes where he photoshopped his head on the man & his friend's sister on the woman to a friend, he has messages from his ex fiancee & her best friend (not terrible, but not "right" to talk to them), he told me I'm not allowed to take photos with other men...when he saw a pic of myself and my longtime coworker at a work Christmas party posing with a prize we won.
To make a long story short, last night I finally confronted him about the pics. He claims that his friends send him p*rn but he tries to delete it. He got mad about an acne mark I had on my neck and asked me who made the mark....then he got angry that I am going to visit my aunt & 2 female cousins in Louisiana next weekend alone. The last time I asked him to go in March, he told me "I hate Louisiana, no. It's all voodoo magic and h**kers" and he never takes off work to go places with me cuz he works construction.
He was even more angry because my female cousin & I were going to have a "girl's night" and go out dancing at a bar. My husband knows I LOVE to dance, it's one of my passions especially latin dancing. I have not gone out with ANY friends alone this year, even tho I am 25 years old. He said "If you go to Louisiana next week, you will come back & I will be gone. You will be single. I'm not going to control you it's your choice." I reminded him I let him go out alone this summer with his friend i'll call "Mike" multiple times to go to a bar downtown and to his friends house to drink/play video games till 2 am...he said that it was ok for him because I was sick with my heart problems so I couldn't go due to the hot weather.
We scream and cry for an hour over other things. I then say "Ok, am I allowed to go to Louisiana if I don't go to any bar, just spend time with my family?" He said "It's not a good idea. I don't like that idea at all. I have a bad feeling in my chest that something will happen if you go alone without me there to protect you." I said "You never have that premonition when I go to work alone in Alabama. why did you marry me if you don't trust me?" Then he says "No it's not about trust. I just have this bad feeling in my chest that something bad is going to happen. You aren't my slave so go if you want, but I don't like the idea at all." I asked him if he still loves me & he said "i'll love you forever."
So....now I don't know what to do, I feel sick. If I don't go see my family, my husband will be happy. If I do go see them, my husband has threatened to leave me. I don't know what to do, is this normal for a husband to not want his wife to go on vacation alone???
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Have a good trip. Re read your other threads.
Of course, this marriage doesn't sound any more real that your first one. This one must have married him the week after you divorced for it already to be 8 mos as you were still married to your first husband less than a year ago.
Of course, this marriage doesn't sound any more real that your first one. This one must have married him the week after you divorced for it already to be 8 mos as you were still married to your first husband less than a year ago.
Thanks, and yes I will go on the trip...just don't know if I will go dancing or not like I want to
As for the timeline, I filed for divorce from my first husband in March 2015 after about 4.5 years together. I met my current husband in August 2015 and we got married end of April 2016. My divorce took 1 year to actually go thru (so finalized Jan 2016) because my ex-husband refused to sign....
He said "If you go to Louisiana next week, you will come back & I will be gone. You will be single. I'm not going to control you it's your choice."
"I'm not going to control you. I'm just going to issue this ultimatum in an effort to stop you from going. And if you go, I'm going to "punish" you by leaving you. But it will be your choice (your fault) that I'm leaving. But, hey, I'm not trying to control you."
OP, going on this trip will benefit you in two ways.
1.) Spend time with your family.
2.) Get rid of your terrible husband.
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Thanks, and yes I will go on the trip...just don't know if I will go dancing or not like I want to
As for the timeline, I filed for divorce from my first husband in March 2015 after about 4.5 years together. I met my current husband in August 2015 and we got married end of April 2016. My divorce took 1 year to actually go thru (so finalized Jan 2016) because my ex-husband refused to sign....
Sorry for the mix up. That's still insanely fast. You were married when you met your second husband and married him before you could really get to know him at all. This is not surprising. You should still be dating, not married.
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