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Originally Posted by GeoffD
A few years ago, a friend was in pretty tough financial shape so I stepped in and helped out financially. I never slept with her. It's what you do for friends in need. It was chump change for me but life changing when your kids are going hungry, the utilities are about to be shut off, and you're about to be homeless because you can't pay the rent. If I were dating someone who happened to drop into that kind of black hole for a few months, I'd feel the need to help out.
Fair enough, but I would hope people like this that are so close to homelessness are not putting their energy into dating. And sure, loaning a friend money when in need is something people sometimes do. I say loan because most people will insist on paying it back even if you don't need it.
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Originally Posted by GeoffD
It's not how I make my relationship decisions but I can certainly respect it.
I don't. It's not my life, so not my business, but it isn't worthy of respect, IMO.
As long as both understand it is a sugar daddy relationship, both are happy, and he can afford it I say have at it. Enjoy it.
I am 74 and while not a sugar daddy, my FWB is 24, and a single mother raising two young boys. Yes I pay some of her bills but it works just fine for the both of us. We see each other once week or every 10 days. She spends a night or two a month at my place. I have even given her a dresser draw.
To add another dimension, I am white and she is black. Add this to the age difference and wow, we do get some stares when in public. Mainly envious ones from men and hateful ones from women.
I opted to go this route rather than a steady lady friend as I do not want to get involved. I enjoy my single (widower) life but I have needs and they are being very well met.......LOL
To each his own.
If it helps, I can almost guarantee most people who see you aren't envious or hateful. Most people are so busy with their own lives and/or self absorbed they really don't care about the relationships of random strangers they see walking around. Most likely you are projecting your fears that people are judging you. Think about it, do you really care about a random couple you might see and speculate about their relationship or are you reflecting on your last golf game or planning your next date with your FWB?
Fair enough, but I would hope people like this that are so close to homelessness are not putting their energy into dating. And sure, loaning a friend money when in need is something people sometimes do. I say loan because most people will insist on paying it back even if you don't need it.
I don't. It's not my life, so not my business, but it isn't worthy of respect, IMO.
People who are doing horribly financially have relationships all the time.
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