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I had an entree and one drink which came to $20.10. He also had one entree and one drink. When we were done with the meal, he flagged down our server and asked her if she would bring separate checks. I was a little surprised by this because no one I've gone out with has ever done this.
Why would this bother you? Why is it that after the initial date, you are already making issues out of money? Mod cut.I ran your scenario by my wife Mod cut. said she wouldnt have a problem with it. She said would have expected the guy to pick up the tab, but if he didnt, she wouldnt think that there were any issues with him or her. She said that its actually a pretty smart thing for a guy to do on the first date.
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There is a difference between asking for a separate check and splitting a check.
And I doubt skin color has anything to do with it. I'm quite sure that if I asked a server for a separate check very few of the second dates I had would ever have occurred, it's tacky as all get out.
There is a difference between asking for a separate check and splitting a check.
Right. Splitting the check is absolutely no big deal. Making a point of asking for a separate check, to me, is sending a clear "we're not together" signal, especially on a date.
There is a difference between asking for a separate check and splitting a check.
There is a difference between asking for a separate check (to start with) and having to split a check as a surprise
Which was the premise for this thread.
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There is a difference between asking for a separate check (to start with) and having to split a check as a surprise
Which was the premise for this thread.
They're both tacky, just in slightly different ways.
And no, it doesn't seem like that was the premise of the thread.
Right. Splitting the check is absolutely no big deal. Making a point of asking for a separate check, to me, is sending a clear "we're not together" signal, especially on a date.
The thing with signals is that they can be misinterpreted.
Communicate.
Why would this bother you? Why is it that after the initial date, you are already making issues out of money? [snip] I ran your scenario by my wife [snip] said she wouldnt have a problem with it. She said would have expected the guy to pick up the tab, but if he didnt, she wouldnt think that there were any issues with him or her. She said that its actually a pretty smart thing for a guy to do on the first date.
Mod cut. Having a guy ask for separate checks isn't something that I've ever personally experienced before, so I thought it was worth discussing. As I've already said, if his wealth (or lack thereof) was a major concern for me, I wouldn't have gone out with him in the first place.
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When sitting in a restaurant we discuss food. /shrug
"Have you eaten here before? What do you like? Have you ever tried tako? How is the haumachi? I'll order the beef tips and share so I can try your scallops." Stuff like that.
My comment wasn't really for your scenario, it was to someone who said she wouldn't know what you were going to order because women order first.
It is odd that you went to a sushi place to get a burger, but I would still have tried to match my order price to equal or lesser value.
Maybe they went here. The Cowfish Sushi Burger Bar
Cowfish Sushi Burger Bar . It's a very popular restaurant in several cities.
..................... if his wealth (or lack thereof) was a major concern for me, I wouldn't have gone out with him in the first place.
Sure. But it WAS enough concern for you to start a thread about him asking for separate checks.
Its always a good idea to have separate checks (or even split the bill) on first dates. This isnt the 1950s anymore where men were the money makers and women were homemakers. Everyone is equal. Separate checks not only prevents the women from feeling obligated (for anything), but it also prevents the guy from thinking or expecting a return on his investment of picking up the tab (hug, kiss, second date or more). Everyone walks away on equal footing/standing. If there are additional dates scheduled, then other things can be discussed. But first date, 50/50.
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But it WAS enough concern for you to start a thread about him asking for separate checks. 