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About 2 years and a half ago at the beginning of our relationship, my boyfriend who is 37 asked me (28) to do him a favor and to please call this female ”friend” he had to give her an address (which I looked up and it happened to be of a lawyer as far as I can remember). He wanted ME to do it because the woman’s husband is somehow violent,and jealous, so basically it seemed to me that this woman is in some sort of abusive or toxic relationship, she has 2 children with her husband, and supposedly this man( her husband) has even been in jail in the past, so my bf wanted me to do him the favor of calling her, Just in case the husband picked up the phone out of rage, that way he would think I was just her friend, and would not put her in any danger,,,this man had even called my boyfriend numerous time at midnight to tell him to not engage in conversations with his wife. and also smashed his wife’s computer for talking to much on Facebook and so on.
So 5 days ago,after almost 2 years of not mentioning her whatsoever he mentions me this women AGAIN!! and the fact that now she is contacting him because she has ”suicidal” thoughts that she can handle it anymore because she is not happy with her life and her husband.., so he was emailing her back trying to talk her out of it,and told me that she is a long time friend and he is concerned of her doing something crazy, But I don’t know what can possibly be going on here, they communicate often but My bf being ALMOST a Doctor should refer her to some special center or a suicide hotline, I talked to him about it and he said that she does not have money and depends on her husband financially, also I have a strong feeling this girl is an ex girlfriend of his, He gave me a very superficial answer to who this women really is and his relationship with her, What do you think can be happening here? emotional attachment?
I suggest you tread lightly here. You can't win. People can have old friends who contact them for odd reasons. She may be testing the waters, but she might not be.
If you love and trust your boyfriend, take a half step back and see how it all plays out. The less you inquire the better.
You can tell him you don't feel comfortable with the situation, but beyond that you will just be wasting your breath.
I suggest you tread lightly here. You can't win. People can have old friends who contact them for odd reasons. She may be testing the waters, but she might not be.
If you love and trust your boyfriend, take a half step back and see how it all plays out. The less you inquire the better.
You can tell him you don't feel comfortable with the situation, but beyond that you will just be wasting your breath.
Good advice.
And it would make sense that you are uncomfortable with the situation, OP, given that the other woman's BF has proven to be violent and volatile.
If I had an ex (who it sounds like it probably is) or anyone else I know/knew for that matter reach out to ME expressing thoughts of suicide, I'd have no choice but to help them.
I couldn't it have it on my conscience if they killed themselves. Also I help people for a living. It's not in my blood to look the other direction.
The the bf gets all in a huff and gets violent call the cops.
If I had an ex (who it sounds like it probably is) or anyone else I know/knew for that matter reach out to ME expressing thoughts of suicide, I'd have no choice but to help them.
I couldn't it have it on my conscience if they killed themselves. Also I help people for a living. It's not in my blood to look the other direction.
The the bf gets all in a huff and gets violent call the cops.
I just don't buy that she is just a friend, I even asked and said ''hey is this woman an ex lover or something, and he just said ''no'' with a body language that expressed LIE,My boyfriend is the type of man
that says things little by little, not all at once. So I know he wont say anything else.
I just don't buy that she is just a friend, I even asked and said ''hey is this woman an ex lover or something, and he just said ''no'' with a body language that expressed LIE,My boyfriend is the type of man
that says things little by little, not all at once. So I know he wont say anything else.
I've been in this position a few times with either ex lovers or friends and I've pretty much always helped or offered to , mainly because it shows how bad a situation they are in to ask someone from their past for help and yeah I felt sorry for them....... It doesn't for one second mean I want anything in return or rekindle anything.
However if I was with someone then I'd have to think twice about it as I won't in a million years get involved in something that could effect her or our relationship.......So yeah it's a tough one.
As for the trust side if things has he given you any reason not to trust him in the past?.
And it would make sense that you are uncomfortable with the situation, OP, given that the other woman's BF has proven to be violent and volatile.
@Wmsn4Life Yeah I am super uncomfortable, I don't like this at all, I just have this feeling that theres something else to the story that he wont tell me, I can put my hand in fire that this is his ex, there's no way he would help her that much and be so worried if she not an ex period.even if you are the best person on the world, you would not help a friend this much.3 Years talking with this women over and over, and always some new drama. something smells rotten denmark.
I've been in this position a few times with either ex lovers or friends and I've pretty much always helped or offered to , mainly because it shows how bad a situation they are in to ask someone from their past for help and yeah I felt sorry for them....... It doesn't for one second mean I want anything in return or rekindle anything.
However if I was with someone then I'd have to think twice about it as I won't in a million years get involved in something that could effect her or our relationship.......So yeah it's a tough one.
As for the trust side if things has he given you any reason not to trust him in the past?.
My bf is an overall I don't want to say mysterious but more of a reserved type of person( Which I dont know how good can that be!!). he does not open up about hings all at once, its piece by piece, I feel this way because,, since we were dating he mentioned me this woman and her troubles and that's when my doubts began. that day he mentioned her for the first time, I remember my head was going round and round, I even thought of leaving the relationship.
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