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SERIOUSLY? ??? It does matter because it clearly shows that the OPus boyfriend doesnt care
Really? So posting on social media automatically means someone cares about you? Not thinking so. I would put much more stock in how you are treated on a day to day basis. So what if this guy posted tons of pictures, but treated her badly? That means he cares I guess. Believe me, I care about my husband, but I barely ever post pictures of him. And I don't think I have ever posted one of us together. It's usually of my foster animals or my child's sports activities....on the rare time I do post something. People really do choose to get upset about the silliest things. You have no idea if the boyfriend cares about her. Neither do I. But this one thing means nothing in the grand scheme of life.
Really? So posting on social media automatically means someone cares about you? Not thinking so. I would put much more stock in how you are treated on a day to day basis. So what if this guy posted tons of pictures, but treated her badly? That means he cares I guess. Believe me, I care about my husband, but I barely ever post pictures of him. And I don't think I have ever posted one of us together. It's usually of my foster animals or my child's sports activities....on the rare time I do post something. People really do choose to get upset about the silliest things. You have no idea if the boyfriend cares about her. Neither do I. But this one thing means nothing in the grand scheme of life.
Agreed. Some don't wanna share their private lives online. And some may hate taking pictures. For me, it's both. I have 1 pic on Facebook, and the only reason it's still up is because I haven't been on since 2007 and don't remember my Login info. lol
It seems people put too much stock in social media. My brother and his girlfriend are that way. Anytime they do something, or get something, the pictures have to go on Facebook. And their relationship is a mess.
If you like taking and sharing pix, it's cool. But that's just it. Let if be something you can both do if you're both interested. Let it be an activity at best. Don't weigh it as a testimony of love. No more than you'd say "He must not love me because he doesn't wanna go a concert with me."
Some people have pix posted with their SO, and meanwhile they're running around on them in their spare time.
Last edited by HappyRain; 03-09-2017 at 09:02 AM..
This is so silly. I have been married for ages, I don't need to " show off" my husband to social media. Neither does he. I stick to what I said before, this has nothing to do with not caring. Not everyone wants to post all the time on social media. Especially in a new relationship. I could care less if my husband post pictures of me. I can't even remember the last time I went on his facebook actually.
I'm talking about people who regularly use social media and who haven't been married for ages.
While some people are right about the idea that your partner not posting pics of you together doesn't necessarily mean they aren't into you (and shouldn't be used as some kind of measure of that), I feel they're neglecting the flip side. It can definitely be a matter of your partner wanting to hide you from their social circle, and/or wanting to appear to be single to others. I say this from experience (and that was exactly the case). That is a problem. Your partner basically does not want other people to see you with them. I've been there and it was a red flag.
So it can be both. Maybe they just don't want to broadcast all of their business on social media. Fine. OR maybe he wants to hide you because he doesn't want Jane to know that he's dating you. OR maybe she once dated and still talks to and flirts with Jim (behind your back of course), so if he sees a pic of her and you he'll go WTF, and that will mess things up (and she doesn't want that to happen).
If the person regularly uses social media and updates pics (and people tend to post pics of things they value, or pics of them and their friends) etc, but never posts pics of you together, or doesn't even have one pic of you together, then I feel it's natural to want to question. Ultimately all you can do is talk to your partner and see what's up.
Last edited by Lovebird-; 03-09-2017 at 04:04 PM..
I don't understand the stigma attached to keeping your relationship private. I think this is more of a communication/trust issue. If your partner tells you that it's not because they want to hide you out of shame/or possession issues, believe them. If it bothers you that much, leave. If I had a bf I wouldn't want to plaster him on my page either. I've seen so much drama attached to that and I want no part of it. Everybody doesn't need to know who you've been with.
Reminds me of my husband. He cut me off a picture and just post his face on his FB. I was like 'thanks for cutting me off the pic, biatch'. He was like make an FB account and cut me off the pic too. And he said that is his FB. He can be a douche. His status says married though. But honestly I really don't give a sht really.
I am not an attention ho and I actually deleted all my social media acct. I have them all even myspace.
He loves going to FB but I honestly don't care I know he is not cheating and that's all that matters. Really don't care about his FB 'life'. Coz he lives his REAL life with me, 24/7, unfortunately.
Reminds me of my husband. He cut me off a picture and just post his face on his FB. I was like 'thanks for cutting me off the pic, biatch'. He was like make an FB account and cut me off the pic too. And he said that is his FB. He can be a douche. His status says married though. But honestly I really don't give a sht really.
I am not an attention ho and I actually deleted all my social media acct. I have them all even myspace.
He loves going to FB but I honestly don't care I know he is not cheating and that's all that matters. Really don't care about his FB 'life'. Coz he lives his REAL life with me, 24/7, unfortunately.
I'm in the vast minority as I can't stand the love affair America has with social media sites. I find it very superficial and fake. "Look at how great I'm doing" kind of thing. The reality is often very different than the pictures posted.
To get upset about this is equally artificial, fake, and I'll add childish. IMO
I'm in the vast minority as I can't stand the love affair America has with social media sites. I find it very superficial and fake. "Look at how great I'm doing" kind of thing. The reality is often very different than the pictures posted.
To get upset about this is equally artificial, fake, and I'll add childish. IMO
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Sounds like you're happily married.lol!
I am satisfied and happy for the most part. I think it's pathetic to base someone's relationship is happy and perfect based on their social media content/posts. See the bolded quote above. Which I 100001% agree.
Also when I read your post I check my husband's profile pic guess what? He did not cut me off this time. Still don't care though.
What's more important to me is what's happening behind the social media posts.
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Still don't care though.
