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I realize this is such a stupid issue, but it's been really bothering me recently.
Background: BF and I dated like 5 years ago and have recently gotten back together a couple of months ago after not being together for a little over 3 years.
My BF uses instagram to post pictures of either himself, where he is traveling (75% of the time, I am on the trip with him), or a picture of him and his best guy friends. If you were to see his instagram, you would never know I existed.
I have either met his friends or they know about me because I have all his friends on social media, so they can connect the dots that we are posting from the same place so we are obviously together.
I just wish that he'd post pictures of me on Instagram so it at least looks like he's not single/available.
We were having a lunch date today and I asked him why he never posts pictures of me but will post pictures with him and "the boys". He told me that "it's different posting pictures with 'the boys' than it is with you. Have I ever posted just a picture with me and a girl?" And I said "uh no, because you really have girl-friends and you haven't dated anyone but me". And then he continues to post the picture on Instagram that I had taken of him at lunch today..
Does that reasoning even make sense? I don't think it does. How is it any different to post a picture with me, his girlfriend, than with his best buddies?
We are going on a trip next month, so I really want him to at least post a picture of us when we're there.
I also know he's not cheating on me or there's a side-chick because he spends most time with me and I've seen who he texts and messages and they are all names I am familiar with/people that know I exist.
please don't make this non-issue into an issue. Maybe since you guys broke up and recently got back together, he's not ready yet to post pictures of you two. I know i don't post stuff with my gf unless ive been with her for a year or so.
If you guys have only been back on for a few months I can't blame him. It's really not necessary to make your relationship public when it's this new. What if it ended next month? If you feel that he is a great boyfriend you should just drop this Petty problem. But if there's other red flags as well maybe there's a fire somewhere
If you gotta no other problem at all this is a good one to worry,, buy some coke and start thinking a lot,, I am on Instagram but I don't post any of my boy friends or my daughter or our family photos. I have 1500 followers I don't even know who are they. That is not because I want to show of as single my profile very boldly say Married Honestly I don't think Instagram is the place for family pics or couple pics I mostly seen two girls either set of boys very rarely I have seen entire family pics or couples or babies or so and so
Prehapes he just prefers to keep his relationships private?
I don't post my family online, becuase honestly it's nobodies business. It has nothing to do with hiding them away in an attempt to keep "side chicks" or attract the oppsiate sex
Prehapes he just prefers to keep his relationships private?
I don't post my family online, becuase honestly it's nobodies business. It has nothing to do with hiding them away in an attempt to keep "side chicks" or attract the oppsiate sex
OP, I think that could well be the best answer: some people are private, while others are not. One way to check this is to compare the behavior you see in his picture posting with his more general behavior regarding relationship privacy.
I have often wondered about why some people act the way he does. In the cases I am familiar with, hiding the relationship to retain the appearance of being single has not been a motivation. In some cases, it has been due to some inner shame about being in a troubled relationship or being with a partner whom he/she regards as "not good enough" and/or is afraid others will have the same reaction.
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Honestly I don't think Instagram is the place for family pics or couple pics I mostly seen two girls either set of boys very rarely I have seen entire family pics or couples or babies or so and so 
