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I'm focusing on being the "home support" so to speak (although we don't live together so it's not really at home support).
Why not offer to be waiting for him at his home so you can have some time together, even if you're both sleeping? Have dinner or a snack or a hot bath ready for him, give him a massage.
My boyfriend owns his own business and because of it often works long hours and weekends. I think his work contributed to the failure of his marriage or, at least, he thinks that. Lately his company got a big contract and he's literally working 12-16 hour days 7 days a week. This is going to go on for the next three months. There isn't a lot of time for us and lately, he also seems to be stressing himself out worrying about "us."
Really, he works 12-16 hours every day 7 days a week? For three months without break? Everyone is different, but I could not work that much without serious impact to my heath and sanity...
If I were you, I would encourage him to take at least one day off. I understand that he needs to work hard but after all, his health and sanity is more important that a job. And ruined health is extremely expensive to fix...
Clearly... he needs to work less hard (as most do).
Solving the deeper Q of why he gravitates to the martyrdom of these excessive hours
is what will determine whether the OP will have a relationship she wants to be a part of.
He works so hard because he owns the company and has an obligation to his employees. He's not the type to go home when his employees are still there trying to get work done and get home to their loved ones too. They are a contractor and sometimes work comes and it's a lot to do under a tight deadline. Sometimes they have no work and he has plenty of free time. It's just the nature of the beast.
Why does he do it? Well, he does enjoy his work, but like I said he feels obligated to his employees, and frankly, it also makes him a lot of money. He hopes to be able to retire early and travel (which would be an even bigger problem for us since I'm 9 years younger than him and there is no way I'll also be able to retire when he does). That will be a bigger issue when the day comes. Of course, that's a long ways off anyway.
Edit: I will say that his overworking does concern me (health wise). But he was like this when I met him and he knows. The lack of sleep is bad. It's part of the package that makes him, him. And it's not my business to change him unless he wants it. For example, I've been working with him on eating healthy and exercising though since he's interested in changing that.
Last edited by BellaLind; 01-12-2017 at 09:38 AM..
Nobody should work that much. Even Sundays people shut down.
I have never heard of someone working that much.
Military does it a lot and let's just say his job is along those lines (he's not military thought). I've done it short term when I worked at trade shows. But that was just two weeks at a time, tops. It's exhausting and I don't know how people can work such long hours so much.
I want to stress this is temporary. He doesn't usually work these kinds of hours. But this will last until March.
It's exhausting and I don't know how people can work such long hours so much.
I want to stress this is temporary. He doesn't usually work these kinds of hours. But this will last until March.
He and his whole team are going to burn out by March. I don't know that any amount of sending loving/sexy texts to let him know you're thinking of him will help.
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