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I'd beg to differ on that one. I'm definitely neither desired nor have long-term potential. If I were either, I would have experienced at least one long-term relationship by now, at age 44.
Agreed but it's not impossible mate
Do you mind me asking how long you've felt this way about yourself or even approached a lady romantically?
Do you mind me asking how long you've felt this way about yourself or even approached a lady romantically?
Pretty much since college.. Even as a senior in HS, come to think of it. I realized my time in high school was nearing an end, and I had never dated anyone, whereas a majority of my friends had. Then I never dated anyone in college until I discovered online dating. This came in the form of free personals ads, email, IRC, then later free dating sites. Match.com was free at that time. We're talking 1995 here. I met someone on Match.com then who I really liked and was hoping to eventually get into a long-term relationship with. Well, a couple months later, she dumped me for no good reason, when I thought everything was going very well. I never did anything wrong, to my knowledge. Then it would be 4 years before I would find anyone else to date.
Pretty much since college.. Even as a senior in HS, come to think of it. I realized my time in high school was nearing an end, and I had never dated anyone, whereas a majority of my friends had. Then I never dated anyone in college until I discovered online dating. This came in the form of free personals ads, email, IRC, then later free dating sites. Match.com was free at that time. We're talking 1995 here. I met someone on Match.com then who I really liked and was hoping to eventually get into a long-term relationship with. Well, a couple months later, she dumped me for no good reason, when I thought everything was going very well. I never did anything wrong, to my knowledge. Then it would be 4 years before I would find anyone else to date.
Based on what you've revealed here, you've done virtually nothing to get yourself into any kind of relationship, let alone a long term one. Lamenting about something you didn't achieve yet made no wholehearted effort towards.
Pretty much since college.. Even as a senior in HS, come to think of it. I realized my time in high school was nearing an end, and I had never dated anyone, whereas a majority of my friends had. Then I never dated anyone in college until I discovered online dating. This came in the form of free personals ads, email, IRC, then later free dating sites. Match.com was free at that time. We're talking 1995 here. I met someone on Match.com then who I really liked and was hoping to eventually get into a long-term relationship with. Well, a couple months later, she dumped me for no good reason, when I thought everything was going very well. I never did anything wrong, to my knowledge. Then it would be 4 years before I would find anyone else to date.
Awwwww thank you for sharing mate
Right so you have dated and have got experience then mate...... That means you HAVE got it and are very much dateable in someone's eyes
You say no one has shown interest in you since but what about yourself have you shown interest in anyone and made it known to them?
Right so you have dated and have got experience then mate...... That means you HAVE got it and are very much dateable in someone's eyes
You say no one has shown interest in you since but what about yourself have you shown interest in anyone and made it known to them?
Yes, several women. But the ones I want are already in long-term relationships. In fact, one just got engaged last summer.
And maybe I USED to have it, but I certainly don't now. I'm nowhere near as good looking now as I was then (not that I actually was then either). I have very little dating experience. I did the math on all of my past relationships, and the TOTAL time is only 8 months. And that's counting the times where I wasn't in the area, thus unable to spend time together (since most of them were long-distance ones that I met online).
Yes, several women. But the ones I want are already in long-term relationships. In fact, one just got engaged last summer.
And maybe I USED to have it, but I certainly don't now. I'm nowhere near as good looking now as I was then (not that I actually was then either). I have very little dating experience. I did the math on all of my past relationships, and the TOTAL time is only 8 months. And that's counting the times where I wasn't in the area, thus unable to spend time together (since most of them were long-distance ones that I met online).
We're in a brand new year now. What are your plans for doing something differently to achieve the results you want? You haven't really tried, you have a negative view of yourself and you have fairly strict parameters for a woman to date. From the other post you wrote about yourself and your life, job, home, etc., it really sounds like you're just looking to slot a woman into what you already have. It doesn't work that way.
You need to get out of your comfort zone, seek therapy, take steps to grab life by the horns instead of just existing from day to day and wallowing in self-pity. I am the same age you are. We aren't getting younger. I plan for me to be a better version of myself this next birthday. And you?
I am the same age you are. We aren't getting younger. I plan for me to be a better version of myself this next birthday. And you?
I plan for 2017 to be just as dateless as 2016 was. My last date was on 12/21/15. And you guessed it - only a first date. She never was interested in a second.
I plan for 2017 to be just as dateless as 2016 was. My last date was on 12/21/15. And you guessed it - only a first date. She never was interested in a second.
Aren't you just a neat little bundle of self-fulfilling prophecy.
I plan for 2017 to be just as dateless as 2016 was.
Then you'll likely succeed.
Be careful what you wish for.
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