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You're not showing much better mental stability yourself when you chase after a woman that you constantly say you had to cheat on to live with, and who you claim wasn't wife material.
She sounds cooky, but you have been borderline abusive to her. Saying it's her fault you cheated, and she's bad for not being the wife material you feel entitled to. And feeling the need to ask who she's had sex with when it's none of your business, because you're not together.
To be blunt, both of you are a mess.
I agree I was a mess. I knew that the entire time i was in this relationship. I knew I was a mess, that's why I came here looking to you guys for guidance and advice. And I appreciate all of it.. everyone here gave me great guidance on what to do and I thank everyone for the time they took to give me your opinions.
Sometimes when you're in a relationship with a crazy person, you act a little crazy too. That's what I did. Her push pull dynamics, the "leave me alone - no come back maybe there is a chance" tactics, the manipulation/control, the constant breakups, the silent treatments.. i have no doubt she is mentally disordered.
And being with her has made me act a little crazy too. Now I can push forward and focus on being strong so the next time she contacts me - and there is no doubt she will - i will be able to ignore her.
Sounds like you are a narcissist, manipulator. You do terrible things then try to reason them away. You didn't even take the relationship with the new chick seriously by sleeping with your ex over and over again. Doesn't seem like much remorse. Go seek mental help.
Sounds like you are a narcissist, manipulator. You do terrible things then try to reason them away. You didn't even take the relationship with the new chick seriously by sleeping with your ex over and over again. Doesn't seem like much remorse. Go seek mental help.
two weeks after we broke up she went to mexico and had sex with some new guy she barely knows.. does this sound like the kind of girl I would want to be loyal to?
After the first time she broke up with me she asked me if i wanted exclusivity with her and I was very clear:
There is no point in me being loyal and monogamous to you if you're just going to break up with me whenever you feel like and have sex with other men.
two weeks after we broke up she went to mexico and had sex with some new guy she barely knows.. does this sound like the kind of girl I would want to be loyal to?
After the first time she broke up with me she asked me if i wanted exclusivity with her and I was very clear:
There is no point in me being loyal and monogamous to you if you're just going to break up with me whenever you feel like and have sex with other men.
Like I told you before, this is why you kept contact with her. You wanted to use HER behavior as some kind of excuse for YOUR cheating.
You both behaved very badly, but you still have some screwed-up ways of looking at relationships. Check your ego and forget this woman. You have enough problems to solve that she did not cause.
what's kind of annoying about your posts? It's that every time you start to take responsibility for your actions... here comes the "But..." "But, but, but, but.... she this, she that..." Nobody makes anybody do anything (unless there's a gun to the head). Being with her didn't make you anything. You are who you are. You can control what you do... only you can do that... and only for yourself. But, (yeah, see how that works?) is this what you want?: Okay, it's all her fault and you're the injured party here. How could she expect you not to cheat when, after all... she went on vacation.
What?!
And, Jesus, if you really don't wanna be tortured by tales of her recent sex capades, don't say that you want to hear them... and then use it against her.
You are responsible for your own actions, reactions, responses to everything in life that you experience. No ifs ands or buts. You make choices... you do that... you choose what you do... nobody makes you. If they did, if they could, then, by god, I'd make you give me a $100,000 tomorrow and I'd make you happy to do it.
Forget about what she did, what she does if you're done with her craziness... Often what bothers us about other people is something we possess in ourselves... speaking of craziness. Maybe next time try a injecting a little integrity in the way you behave in relationships... that way you won't need to make excuses.
Good luck to you. Really, I do mean all this ...nicely.
And, Jesus, if you really don't wanna be tortured by tales of her recent sex capades, don't say that you want to hear them... and then use it against her. .
Well i thought about her story and after a few days of living in hell i did some research on this doctor she told me about, the one who dated the former miss colombia. Turns out he is a new york based doctor in his third year of medical residency, which runs from june to june. No way in hell would he be able to take a week off for a vacation in cancun during medical residency - and on only two weeks' notice on top of that.
She made the whole thing up. She knew I didn't like him.. she was just using him to upset me.
Oh man the level of drama and crazymaking from this girl has officially reached god-like proportions. I can't wait for a for more days to pass so I can finally get over this insanity. No wonder she hasn't had a relationship in the last four years.
Well i thought about her story and after a few days of living in hell i did some research on this doctor she told me about, the one who dated the former miss colombia. Turns out he is a new york based doctor in his third year of medical residency, which runs from june to june. No way in hell would he be able to take a week off for a vacation in cancun during medical residency - and on only two weeks' notice on top of that.
She made the whole thing up. She knew I didn't like him.. she was just using him to upset me.
Oh man the level of drama and crazymaking from this girl has officially reached god-like proportions. I can't wait for a for more days to pass so I can finally get over this insanity. No wonder she hasn't had a relationship in the last four years.
And yet, despite this, you're still obsessed and talking in threads about her. So, again, you aren't much better.
If she's so crazy + horrible, and you're this stuck on her, evidently you like it.
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