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Old 02-16-2017, 12:01 PM
 
Location: Nashua, NH
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Since I've posted before about dating. I just want to know a few things because apparently I'm oblivious as to how to date. All my ex's and dates I've always had constant contact texting, calling, hanging out. This new woman I'm dating we've gone on 7 dates now in a month. Which is a lot to some but not a lot to me. She wants to take things super slow.....we've had sex and things have slowed down to the point where's there's barely any texting, no more snapchats, and one date a week which is fine except it feels weird to me. Is it because I'm to anxious? Why do I feel like things have changed? When we do hang out we kiss and hold hands and hug.

Is this how dating is? Am I supposed to feel like I'm bugging her to hang out once a week?
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Old 02-16-2017, 01:10 PM
 
Location: Dallas Texas
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You're newness has worn off already. Are you even engaging her or are you just waiting for her to contact you?
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Old 02-16-2017, 01:17 PM
 
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I think you started off way too quickly, and now she probably wants to take things slower, which it sounds like she wanted to do in the first place. All you can do is ask her out and see what happens. Don't expect to text and talk constantly. Don't expect to hang out constantly either. If I was dating this would drive me crazy. My husband and I don't even talk constantly. If she likes you it will happen, and if she doesn't there is nothing you can do anything so don't worry about it too much.
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Old 02-16-2017, 01:25 PM
 
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Not sure how your chemistry is when you are together but if it's good, then don't worry. Keep setting up dates and initiating contact by calling and texting her few times a week. If she likes you, she will continue to go on dates with you.

I've been going out with this guy for 5 weeks, 6 dates. He always initiates dates and contact which I like and prefer. We only meet once a week and talk 2-3x a week. I like slower pace... I work 40-50 hours a week and go to school part-time. I also have a life with friends/family. People are busy...
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Old 02-16-2017, 01:31 PM
 
Location: Nashua, NH
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We have great chemistry, I text her sometimes. She rarely texts me it's cerrain times of the day. When we hang out we have a lot to talk about because we don't text constantly.


I guess I'm just not used to it. Because it feels like we aren't connected. That make sense? Texting each other a total of like 10 times during a week after dating for a month seems so little. A lot to some not a lot to me.
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Old 02-16-2017, 01:35 PM
 
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We have great chemistry, I text her sometimes. She rarely texts me it's cerrain times of the day. When we hang out we have a lot to talk about because we don't text constantly.


I guess I'm just not used to it. Because it feels like we aren't connected. That make sense? Texting each other a total of like 10 times during a week after dating for a month seems so little. A lot to some not a lot to me.
Do you want to get serious with her? Have you had sex?
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Old 02-16-2017, 01:43 PM
 
Location: Nashua, NH
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Yes we've had sex on the 3rd and 4th date and slept at her place. But she seems happy one date a week.
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Old 02-16-2017, 01:53 PM
 
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I totally get you. I feel the same way about the guy I'm dating. I don't really feel TRULY connected like I was with my ex. I'm happy with 1 date per week and talking 2-3x a week which means I'm not head over heels for this guy. I'm not 100% sure of his intentions as we haven't talked about exclusivity. I guess for me, I'm protecting my heart because I don't know him that well.

But who knows. You have to talk to her first. You're the guy so you need to initiate this type of talk in a non-clingy way.. if you get what I mean. Girls usually wait for that, you know.

Please realize.. she doesn't seem like a texter so don't text her this stuff.. don't text her too much either. Just talk in person.
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Old 02-16-2017, 01:55 PM
 
Location: in your dreams
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Are your texting habits more important to you than this girl is?
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Old 02-16-2017, 02:19 PM
 
Location: Nashua, NH
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No, that's why I haven't texted her that much at all
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