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OOO beowulf, thats a good one, especially for the youngens. I have only been in love once, and I as lucky enough to marry my first love. Fell in love with him on our 2nd or 3rd date. Each date went from noon til the next morning of us just talking and laughing-- I just knew (Id add a winky, smiley here but I dont know how!)
I fell for my husband the moment I saw him. I was 13 and he was 20. I said to my girlfriend "I'm gonna marry that man someday". We started dating 6 years later (obviously I was way too young at 13) and 6 years after that we got married. Been together ever since.
i don't think it can be "love" at first sight. I've been able to tell three times instantly and immediately that the person is hugely significant for me, but that's not love. I've felt instant sexual chemistry with someone, but that's not love. I've felt an immediate attraction and affinity and ease in someone's presence like I've know them forever, but that's not love.
What I consider love only happens over time after getting to know the person, and after revealing more and more of myself to the person, knowing each other at a deep level.
I guess ever since after my college boyfriend, I tend to just fall "in lust." Of course, that's not what I believe at the time. It only takes a look and a sniff. (OK, it's not quite THAT simple - lack of brains, manners, and sense of humor is definitely a turnoff regardless of the purposes and intentions). Suppose I'm not very evolved. This is not to say it happens often, but often enough to mess up my life, I guess... Oh, well, too late to teach an old dog new tricks. I've figured as long as I commit to staying away from marriages and live-in situations, it's fine and dandy. What's the point of doing something I don't enjoy... Either all (for as long as it lasts) or nothing! Only have to remember and pray not to lose my mind somewhere along the way... It's kinda easy to stick to my decision in this country, though. The lifestyle and the items on the menu where I live are not likely to get me in trouble unless I trouble trouble... Then again, I've been known to do that, too.
Now that I said this, don't take any relationship advice from me! I don't feel qualified to offer it anyway. At this point I do know a lot about how things have to be done in theory, but have a problem with practicing what I could possibly preach.
I knew that my husband was going to be the man I was going to marry within two weeks of dating (I didn't tell him this until AFTER her proposed - can't scare the man away). I had a serious crush on him for a year before that...
i don't think it can be "love" at first sight. I've been able to tell three times instantly and immediately that the person is hugely significant for me, but that's not love. I've felt instant sexual chemistry with someone, but that's not love. I've felt an immediate attraction and affinity and ease in someone's presence like I've know them forever, but that's not love.
What I consider love only happens over time after getting to know the person, and after revealing more and more of myself to the person, knowing each other at a deep level.
That's a good way to put it. It just happens in my case that everytime I've had the experience it's blossomed into love
It didn't take me long at all to fall in love with my husband...even shorter for hubby. We were friends first and talked about lots of things so when our friendship blossomed to a relationship, I knew so much about him anyways, the good and the bad, that falling in love with him was the icing on the cake...I knew we'd get married someday.
when people jump into that "i love you" with me right away my gut reaction inside is "how can you love me? you don't even know me?" i trust my bull**** meter. it's a whole different reaction when I hear "i love you" after we've been through some stuff together, and it feels like the person has paid attention to getting to know me and what makes me tic.
i'd rather wait to hear it until i feel like it is genuine and means something
when people jump into that "i love you" with me right away my gut reaction inside is "how can you love me? you don't even know me?" i trust my bull**** meter. it's a whole different reaction when I hear "i love you" after we've been through some stuff together, and it feels like the person has paid attention to getting to know me and what makes me tic.
i'd rather wait to hear it until i feel like it is genuine and means something
Oh, well, some of us used to believe in "love" at first sight... If I "love" him... why wouldn't he... The thing is both parties genuinely believe in it at the moment. It's not usually about deliberately faking it.
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(OK, it's not quite THAT simple - lack of brains, manners, and sense of humor is definitely a turnoff regardless of the purposes and intentions). Suppose I'm not very evolved. 
Oh, well, too late to teach an old dog new tricks. I've figured as long as I commit to staying away from marriages and live-in situations, it's fine and dandy. What's the point of doing something I don't enjoy... Either all (for as long as it lasts) or nothing! Only have to remember and pray not to lose my mind somewhere along the way... It's kinda easy to stick to my decision in this country, though. The lifestyle and the items on the menu where I live are not likely to get me in trouble unless I trouble trouble... 
I don't feel qualified to offer it anyway.
The thing is both parties genuinely believe in it at the moment. It's not usually about deliberately faking it.
