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I suppose if I were a demure, submissive, religious woman, who believed men were always right and should always be in charge, that would be good advice.
But since I'm not.....<VOMIT>
Here's what stood out to me the most:
13. Love him in the way he needs it, not the way you assume he needs it. Find out your different love languages and be sensitive and ready to show him you love him in ways he understands best.
BUT ALSO
22. Allow your husband to love you his way instead of comparing his expression of love to your own ideals. If you keep comparing, you may miss the most beautiful moments of tenderness.
So, love him HIS way, and let him love you HIS way, because the way YOU want to be loved doesn't matter.
haha this should be made into a pamphlet and given to every high school girl at graduation.
Well, if the goal is to reduce marriage rates, then definitely. Because very few smart young women would get married if they were told these were the expectations of men.
I suppose if I were a demure, submissive, religious woman, who believed men were always right and should always be in charge, that would be good advice.
But since I'm not.....<VOMIT>
Here's what stood out to me the most:
13. Love him in the way he needs it, not the way you assume he needs it. Find out your different love languages and be sensitive and ready to show him you love him in ways he understands best.
BUT ALSO
22. Allow your husband to love you his way instead of comparing his expression of love to your own ideals. If you keep comparing, you may miss the most beautiful moments of tenderness.
So, love him HIS way, and let him love you HIS way, because the way YOU want to be loved doesn't matter.
Nope. Nope, nope, nope.
This is exactly what the book "love languages" try's to teach people...which is always touted by the ladies here as essential reading.
It's not about following each other's hand of being commanded to do what the other wants, it's about taking each other for who they are over what you want them to be.
It's about creating respect over demanding it
You twisted that whole thing as some self centered control mechanism
This is exactly what the book "love languages" try's to teach people...which is always touted by the ladies here as essential reading.
It's not about following each other's hand of being commanded to do what the other wants, it's about taking each other for who they are over what you want them to be.
It's about creating respect over demanding it
You twisted that whole thing as some self centered control mechanism
Read it again.
It says that she is to love him HIS way, and let him love her HIS way. HER love language is never figured into the mix.
The love languages book is about learning to love the other person the way they want to be loved. That's where this article got it wrong - it made the whole thing about HIM, not THEM.
It says that she is to love him HIS way, and let him love her HIS way. HER love language is never figured into the mix.
The love languages book is about learning to love the other person the way they want to be loved. That's where this article got it wrong - it made the whole thing about HIM, not THEM.
I find it odd the hypocrisy on these things posted in recent days.
If a woman was to post this exact advice it wouldn't not have had an eye batted at it.
However when it is a man posting from his perspective suddenly its heretic hunts and pitchforks.
Without making this in to a gender war (because that's not my intention)
It's an odd occurrence I've noted.
Maybe it's just how this particular forum leans...who knows
I find it odd the hypocrisy on these things posted in recent days.
If a woman was to post this exact advice it wouldn't not have had an eye batted at it.
However when it is a man posting from his perspective suddenly its heretic hunts and pitchforks.
Without making this in to a gender war (because that's not my intention)
It's an odd occurrence I've noted.
Maybe it's just how this particular forum leans...who knows
So you don't see the hypocrisy in ignoring her love language and only focusing on his love language?
Or you just don't want to admit you were incorrect in your reading of what it, and I, said?
I find it odd the hypocrisy on these things posted in recent days.
If a woman was to post this exact advice it wouldn't not have had an eye batted at it.
However when it is a man posting from his perspective suddenly its heretic hunts and pitchforks.
Without making this in to a gender war (because that's not my intention)
It's an odd occurrence I've noted.
Maybe it's just how this particular forum leans...who knows
Uh no. I'd side-eye anyone who shared drivel like this. It's patently nonsensical whether it's a man or woman offering this "advice." Explaining one individual's M.O. for their relationship is one thing, asserting their method should be some universal gold standard, is another.
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