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My boyfriend has been getting annoyed with me lately because I tend to talk a lot about relationships. He says that rather than talking about them all the time with my friends or acquaintances I should focus more on mine. He also says that I'm always giving advice and I always have to have an opinion on other people's situations and issues. He said that people who always have an opinion on other people, whether solicited or not, are gossips and busybodies and usually defective themselves in some way. I told him that there's nothing wrong with that but he insists that it's not right. Am I being unreasonable?
In other words, be quiet and focus on your own problems and don't worry about others. Once your relationship is absolutely perfect THEN you can start on everyone elses.
He probably thinks you're being a know it all, nosy, and you're not practicing what you preach.
If no one is asking for your advice and it's completely unwarranted, it can be annoying. As much as we'd like to think sometimes, we are not relationship experts. We also don't know what's truly going on in someone else's relationship. So it's better if we minded our own business and tended to our own lives.
My boyfriend has been getting annoyed with me lately because I tend to talk a lot about relationships. He says that rather than talking about them all the time I should focus more on mine. He also says that I'm always giving advice and I always have to have an opinion on other people's situations and issues. I told him that there's nothing wrong with that but he insists that it's not right. Am I being unreasonable?
Unless they're a close friend/relative only offer advice or an opinion if they ask for it
^^^^ just reads like your more into gossip more than anything else
Maybe he said that because he feels you're comparing your relationship to other people's relationships? And possibly making yours feel like something's lacking or inadequate perhaps?
It also isn't wrong to offer advice *IF* advice is sought. That's between you and your friends and isn't his to judge. And again, no reason to share it with him, since he's clearly bothered by your having opinions on and offering advice regarding your friends' relationships.
I'd be curious why he thinks you're not focused enough on your own relationship, though.
Also, he doesn't get to dictate what you choose to talk about with your friends.
Most guys don't wanna discuss relationships. It goes in one ear and out the other. Your guy is honest and let's you know he doesn't give a crap.
Talk about that stuff with your gfs.
Sounds like she is, and he doesn't like it:
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Originally Posted by felidsan
My boyfriend has been getting annoyed with me lately because I tend to talk a lot about relationships. He says that rather than talking about them all the time with my friends or acquaintances I should focus more on mine. He also says that I'm always giving advice and I always have to have an opinion on other people's situations and issues. He said that people who always have an opinion on other people, whether solicited or not are gossips and usually defective themselves in some way. I told him that there's nothing wrong with that but he insists that it's not right. Am I being unreasonable?
My boyfriend has been getting annoyed with me lately because I tend to talk a lot about relationships. He says that rather than talking about them all the time with my friends or acquaintances I should focus more on mine. He also says that I'm always giving advice and I always have to have an opinion on other people's situations and issues. He said that people who always have an opinion on other people, whether solicited or not, are gossips and busybodies and usually defective themselves in some way. I told him that there's nothing wrong with that but he insists that it's not right. Am I being unreasonable?
I'll say this...
If someone comes to you for advice and you have it to give, then definitely give it.
But if you are just stating your opinion in conversations, then I don't think it is either right or wrong.
So his opinion is that you should not have them... ok.
Work out why he feels your not investing enough in your own relationship. Do not let him deflate your opinions or interests which you share with your friends.
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