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I wasn't trying to be rude to you, but you just came off as yelling at me basically. But I have decided to just take the advice you gave me last time. I never ran into her last time, which is why I didn't have that "discussion," but I will do so this time.
This is why so many companies have a policy against employees dating.
Don't think I didn't learn my lesson. I will never date a coworker again, but I can't undo it this time. I'm just gonna be upfront with her and tell her I don't want to be friends if she tries to befriend me. Otherwise, I'll just talk to her about work and nothing else.
i would say no. do not ask your manager to do this. sometimes you just need to suck it up and do your job. this is not your managers problem. it's called being a grown up!
oops sorry. i see your last post. good luck
Last edited by beachie123; 04-18-2017 at 01:37 PM..
...and THIS is the reason you don't date people who you worked or currently work with...even if they're in different departments.Period.
Employers don't have time to deal with immature stuff like this.They care about making money and nothing else.How will you even be able to possibly approach your employer about this? Yes..it would be out of line..and embarrassing.
Don't think I didn't learn my lesson. I will never date a coworker again, but I can't undo it this time. I'm just gonna be upfront with her and tell her I don't want to be friends if she tries to befriend me. Otherwise, I'll just talk to her about work and nothing else.
My ex and I were friends before we dated, and she wanted to stay friends when she first dumped me, but I said no. I have kept the NC going for so long, but I am afraid that she will immediately try to be my friend once she sees me at work. I don't want to be enemies, but I don't want to be friends either. And she is still with the guy she left me for, also, so it's ridiculous to expect me to hang out with her when she is in this relationship. But our mutual friends also put pressure on me sometimes, saying things like, "We really miss it when we all hung out as a group, so you should hang out with ex as friends." I am on the right path like you say, I just hope she won't try to befriend me at this point lol. But if she does, I'll just let her know I'm not interested, as I said above.
Don't think I didn't learn my lesson. I will never date a coworker again, but I can't undo it this time. I'm just gonna be upfront with her and tell her I don't want to be friends if she tries to befriend me. Otherwise, I'll just talk to her about work and nothing else.
I don't agree with this approach.
As another poster said, if you approach her, it tells her you still have feelings for her.
At this point, just leave things alone. If you end up in the same area together, there's nothing to say you can't be cordial towards each other. If she asks for more, simply decline her request, but make every attempt to take the high-road and do so gracefully.
There is no need to establish "ground rules". The "ground rules" should just be common sense.
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