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Thanks everyone for the advice. I'm going to end this relationship. Last night, it was the same song and dance. We were texting all day, upbeat conversations, then at 11:30 at night I got an angry text and another threat to leave. I liked an Instagram post of a female bodybuilder that posted a picture of herself before her figure competition. Granted that may not have been the smartest move. Her text was "Love when I see your activity on Instagram and you're liking pictures like these, why don't you go date them so I can quite feeling sub-human." But I just feel like I'm walking on eggshells, and to some of your points, If this is how we are at 5 months in... It will only get worse. I will take some of this advice to improve my behavior in my next relationship, but I can't tolerate any more threats, I just can't do it anymore, and if she isn't happy, I'm not happy, and it isn't worth continuing. It is a real shame, but things just didn't work out.
Thanks everyone for the advice. I'm going to end this relationship. Last night, it was the same song and dance. We were texting all day, upbeat conversations, then at 11:30 at night I got an angry text and another threat to leave. I liked an Instagram post of a female bodybuilder that posted a picture of herself before her figure competition. Granted that may not have been the smartest move. Her text was "Love when I see your activity on Instagram and you're liking pictures like these, why don't you go date them so I can quite feeling sub-human." But I just feel like I'm walking on eggshells, and to some of your points, If this is how we are at 5 months in... It will only get worse. I will take some of this advice to improve my behavior in my next relationship, but I can't tolerate any more threats, I just can't do it anymore, and if she isn't happy, I'm not happy, and it isn't worth continuing. It is a real shame, but things just didn't work out.
What was your answer?
Yeah, I guess ending it would be best for all.
OK, so you are 30. Although that is not "old," I would imagine that you are starting to think about your long-term future at this point (given you've already bought a home). After 5 months of dating, I would imagine that you have some idea (whether fully formed or not) whether you can envision a long-term or permanent relationship with this girl. If your gut response is "no," then you should let her go now. I can assure you (I've been married 17 years) that insecurities do not go away after you put a ring on it. The "honeymoon" phase of your relationship is over and she can let you see the "real" her now. If the "real" her is not pleasing to you, cut her loose.
I think you made a good call breaking up with her, it's only been 5 months and she is pretty darn controlling.
It sounds like you learned about the importance of communication too.
BTW, I'm retired and check my calendar before scheduling anything. DH and I share the events electronically so we know what the other has going on (color coded of course).
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She is coming over this evening to talk. I haven't yet pulled the trigger, but I'm going to stick to my position. I will keep you posted. Appreciate all of the advice, as always.
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